Been trying for 18 months

[angelamep]

Hi everyone. I've never done this before so I hope this gets through!! Im 34 and my partner is 33 and we've been trying to conceive for the first time for over a year. We have been to the doctor and he did a routine blood and urine test on me and took my general history but seemed to think it just wasn't enough time to be trying to be worried yet.
My tests came back all normal.
My fiancee has been diagnosed with possible issue with his blood pressure and I wondered if this could be a problem in trying to conceive?
Also he has an allergy to dairy products and he seems convinced this is affecting his ability to produce a baby with me. The doctor we spoke to said no this wouldnt be an issue, lots of people have these diffferent problems these days and it doesn't affect them.
He has said he will go and have a sperm test but haven't managed to get him to go yet.
Anyone think that our doctor is wrong and maybe it is to do with the allergies/blood pressure?

It sounds like you should be referred to a fertility unit based in a hospital as soon as your husband has completed his semen analysis.

There is no point you going to such a clinic on your own, undergoing further testing and possible treatment (which may have implications for your health) until it's confirmed that there's no problem on his side either/as well.

Why doesn't he want to go yet?

As far as I know high blood pressure / allergies have no affect on fertility. Your partner needs to go for his semen analysis, then you can be referred to fertility clinic.

I think he has just convinced himself it's to do with his other health issues and also has just started a new job. I'm doing my best not to stress him out about this as well. Maybe the softly softly approach isnt the way to go at this stage.

maybe he needs a relaxing massage or reflexology?

Yeh he maybe does!! Lord knows living with me is enough to stress anyone out enough to lower their sperm count hee hee

It's not abnormal for it to just take that long. It did for us. Since your chances of conception if you're in your 20s, fit and healthy with no fertility issues is no more than 25%, it does just take time sometimes. And more time as age and health and weight and fitness etc etc are taken into account.

All that said, keep pursuing the investigations but don't necessarily assume the worst.