facebook stalking

[raspberrytipple]

So, (and forgive me Ive had a glass or two of wine) Ive been random FB stalking girls that I was at school with some 10/11 years ago, quite a number of who now have children and have loads of photos of their babies on facebook one even has four babies!!! I don't begrudge anyone their babies but I am insanely jealous and want to cry. god damn facebook

Shouldn't drink and post!

FB is stupid. Makes me feel really bad about myself most of the time. The facts is that it is just a snippet of someone's life, an aesthetic representation of what they want you to see. You do not know anything about their lives or the inns and outs of it. Ok, the fact that they have children is a pretty hard fact to fake on FB (I am usually comparing career achievements or some such), BUT you do not know if they are happy... I am not saying they are NOT, just, every life is it's own story and not B&W. And on FB you are just presented with the white. Which sort of misses your point, but maybe it does not: who cares if they have kids or not. You are not trying to have a baby to compete with them! Sorry if I sound patronising, I was actually trying to make you feel better . And was sort of pep talking myself into not being jealous about various things. How long have you been trying for?

It's so difficult to see behind the pictures thought isn't it.

Anyone seeing my profile would see 2 wonderfull children but they woudnt see the 3 miscarriages, the years ttc or the fact that my 2 were both premature and very poorly or the fact that I had PTSD because my sons arrival was so traumatic and then he was so ill.

My facebook profile is wonderfull but the reality is different.

Don't beat yourself up xxx

Well put Arse. Not a very charming name , but that's exactly what I was trying to say. Sorry about your experiences, but congratulations on getting through it all!

You are both right, no I don't know the story behind it all and I shouldn't pay too much attention. People can create whatever story they want on there.

Mount-you don't sound patronising, very wise words

Arse-Same as mount says, hope you've got through it all ok and little ones are ok.

We've been trying on and off for just over a year, last yr we didn't pay any attention to trying but then we had to have a break as my job was on shaky ground . That's all sorted now so as of June we are back to trying with a vengeance!

Right I'm off to bed in case I get myself into trouble, nothing worse than booze fuelled
threads that eventually end up becoming
booze fuelled status updates.

Wise decision. Good luck. More people than you know are in the boat, we just don't discuss it much in RL

On FB you only generally see the things people want you to see, be it the boasting or the attention-seeking moaning or the daily trivia.

You never know, they might be stalking you back and being jealous of some things they see of your life :)

Raspberrytipple, I know exactly how you feel. I am in exactly the same situation and slightly worried I may have left it too late.

My advice is just don't look at Facebook. If you have any sort of issues to do with self esteem it certainly won't help!