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so pi**ed off with ttc

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liandme · 25/08/2005 12:35

me and dp have been ttc for 16 months with no luck at all a couple of false alarms but thats it, before i met dp i ttc for 3 years with xdp with no luck i have one dd. i have had enough of buying preg tests just in case, i have had enough of tears when i get af, i am clearing my loft of all dd baby stuff. i really dont see the point in trying anymore.
sorry rant over

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SleepySuzy · 25/08/2005 12:43

As soon as you do that it's bound to happen.

Easy · 25/08/2005 12:53

Let me tell you, get rid of all your baby stuff, take a really demanding job, take on a huge mortgage, or a great big loan to buy yourself a fancy car.

Then you are are bound to get preg. It happened for me.

Diddle · 25/08/2005 13:03

liandme - can't imagine how you feel, but you never know, once you relax about it and and put it to the back of your mind (if thats possible) it may happen.
I am ttc and a lot of people have mentioned acupuncture and reflexology and the success they've had, have you tried anything like this? will help to relax you too.

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liandme · 25/08/2005 13:08

easy we have a massive morgage, i have just got a job working with disabled kids, we are getting married in 2 months so getting rid of the baby stuff is the final straw lol

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liandme · 25/08/2005 13:09

diddle i have not tried any of these things will look into it thanks x

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Roobedoo · 25/08/2005 13:16

Oh dear - know how you feel although we've only been at it 10 months. I am sick of the whole emotional rollercoaster - I imagine symptoms every month.

I know everyone else is trying to be positive, but I get a bit tired of people telling me to forget about it and it's bound to happen. It's not an easy thing to forget about!

Do feel for you. x

FeelingOld · 25/08/2005 13:17

Don't despair, it took me 6 years to get pregnant with dd and 4 years with ds so there is hope for you yet.

chloe55 · 25/08/2005 13:28

I know how you feel, I was trying for 10 months with not a lot happening, 16 of our friends had booked to go to Ibiza for one last blow out before we all settled down and took things easy. Me and dh opted not to go originally as we knew we have to cancel if I fell pregnant (which we were so sure would happen over night!) Obviously it didn't so we booked to go with them and hey presto - the month before I get preggers! It was the only month I sat there holding that little stick knowing that if it showed up negative then the plus side was that we could still go on hols - and it was positive!

Obviously, we were over the moon and I still went on holiday but just tormented myself by watching everyone get lashed, and we had to forgo the big club nights much to dh's horror .

It's hard though, everyone tells you not to think about it but we all know that's impossible. Have you considered getting some advice off your GP?

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liandme · 25/08/2005 13:32

we have been to gp and had blood test and semen test and they came back normal so we dont know why it isnt happening, we took a holiday in hope that relaxing mite work but it didnt

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katierocket · 25/08/2005 13:40

liandme, I've been TTC no.2 for 15 months. It's vile isn't it? I hate the rollercoster of emotions every month - expectation, excitement, disappointment, it's shite isn't it. I had a particularly black month this month and thought "It's not bloody fair" etc

I started this thread ages ago which,although obviously doesn't contain the magical answer, is quite reasurring that it will happen, eventually.
to all those that tried and tried and tried and then gave up, and then got pregnant

MeerkatsUnite · 25/08/2005 14:37

Liandme,

Will your GP not refer you as a couple to a gynaecologist for further evaluation?. I'm no expert heaven knows but it does seem that there is something amiss here and this is causing you not to readily conceive.

Exact meanings of blood tests in particular can be missed; did your GP by chance compare your LH (luteinsing hormone) with that of your FSH (follicle stimulation hormone)?. If this person did not then that test is meaningless. LH and FSH levels can look "normal" if looked at separately but these levels actually need to be compared. Ideally these two should be the same but if there is an imbalance (particularly if LH is higher than FSH) this can be a sign of hormonal problems that can be treated.

Would suggest you not give up and return to the GP to request a referral. Do not leave this to chance.

ChaCha · 25/08/2005 16:35

In agreeance with Easy.
Had enough, put everything into my job, started studying again, attending all sorts of classes/clubs etc.. and boom...4 years later am almost 27 weeks pregnant!
It was hard, especially when all my friends and everyone i knew around me was pregnant (and with all the 'we didn't even try', 'husband only has to look at me' 'oh no i'm pg again' comments).
Chin up girl!!! When it's meant to happen it will.

I had two laparoscopies though in the last 2 years as i was diagnosed with endometriosis. Without those ops doubt i would have gotten pg.. and may never have known..HTH

chloe55 · 25/08/2005 16:45

A laparoscopy diagnosed endometriosis with me too chacha, like you, if hadn't caught it when I did then I am sure would have took me more than the 12 months it took to get pregant. I guess there is no harm in getting these things checked out

ChaCha · 25/08/2005 16:51

Hiya Chloe,

Have you since had baby or are you PG? I'm just wondering if i'll be seeing the back of any endo now that I'm PG...anyway i shouldn't gatecrash this thread with my personal questions. Hmmm...well maybe one reply won't hurt

chloe55 · 25/08/2005 16:54

I am 16 weeks and was told that the endo pains would stop and that pregnancy may even cure but no such luck - pains worse than ever, particularly in morning. Apparantly due to scar tissue though

piffle · 25/08/2005 17:37

Li me too, I have 2 kids already one 11 and one nearly 3, both were conceived as if overnight...
I have been ttc no 3 for 2.5 yrs with 2 miscarriage one ectopic I have just given up too.
I am planning a wedding for next July...Everyone has said thats when the baby would be due!
But I'm seriously not storing anyomre hope, no tests, no charting no keeping track of cycles

bubbaloo · 29/08/2005 21:00

Dont give up!

it took me and dh 7 years to concieve ds.it was very stressful and the month i found out i was pg,we had hardly tried.we never thought it would happen,but ds is now 10 weeks old and we're already trying again for another.

also have PCOS so the odds were stacked against us!

cori · 29/08/2005 21:24

Liandme,
I am one of those people Acupuncture has worked for.
I had a miscarriage early this year after TTC for eight months. After that was desperate to concieve again ASAP. So started Acupuncture, she recommended I wait two cycles which I reluctantly did. I then got pregnant after one month of Acupuncture and TTC.

Monstersmum · 30/08/2005 09:17

A friend of mine was ttc for about 9 months and went to doc who recommended sex every second day from the last day of period to 1st day of next. She said that when ttc people just do it around ovulation time and this is sometimes not enough. She said particularly common in couples who have been together for a long time. Anyway - other than friend's DH ending up shattered - it worked!

On the serious side - acupuncture is def worth a try.

Bella23 · 30/08/2005 13:53

liandme - just wanted you to know that I totally sympathise. I was TTC for 6 months and then had a miscarriage and now have been trying for 8 months and it is really starting to get me down!
I have taken the advice of some of the ladies on here and started a course of acupuncture. I have been going for 1 month so will let you know if I manage to get a result.
Its really hard waiting and watching everyone around you getting BFP's at the drop of a hat. I am just trying to stay as positive as possible and then just have the odd day of really wallowing and having a bit of a cry!

Hang in there and I hope we both get some good news soon!

munz · 30/08/2005 13:54

sorry ot hijack quickly - Bella (((hugs))) hope you're doing OK missed u on here hon.

Bella23 · 30/08/2005 14:15

Thanks Munz for the hello.
Still on the hamster wheel of TTC and waiting for my turn to get off !!

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liandme · 30/08/2005 14:37

i woke up this morning and decided to go to the docs to see if there is anything they can say or do to help they will prob fob me offf with some crap but at least i have tried. i have sorted out most of dd baby stuff and dp has insisted i keep some for our baby which has caused tears and i really dont think i can. i think i will just go and get a dog less mess and they dont grow in to lil monsters lol

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munz · 31/08/2005 08:09

good luck li.

bella - u're turn will come honney, please beleieve that, I know it's easy for me to say, keep u're pecker up, get ur glad rags on and go out for a heavy weekend with the girls BD DH everynight then plan to move house etc.. get a new car and trust me then it will happen! - basically do everything they tell u not to. (sod's law) still looking out for u, and I know the beanie girls will all have a cheer for u soon as well. (((((hugs))))))

Bella23 · 31/08/2005 09:44

Munz - that's so lovely, thanks xxx
Yes I know when my time comes there will be a big cheer from the beanie club!!