Artificial insemination/Sperm donor

[sysljfm]

I am seriously considering meeting a man from a sperm donor website to DTD. Has anyone out there done this? I so want to have a baby and am eternally single and 41 (a fit and youthful 41, but 41 nonetheless)and realise that fresh sperm is by far the better option. Man and I have been in contact and had good discussions and feel he is OK but ultimately he is a stranger? Any thoughts/advice?

Have you been to a clinic and asked advice from them?

Dr has not been very helpful either way. Angel on one shoulder, devil on the other? I reach a decision and then something else crops up to make me question myself. Lots of time wasting

Make an appointment at a Fertility Clinic to discuss this. There are alot of legal, emotional, financial, medical angles to consider - probably alot of things you haven't thought of, but things that should be thought through.

I have spent 2 years thinking about this and getting to this point. It is not a whim.

I had my son in 2009 with the help of a donor I met on a sperm donor website. Prior to that I tried adoption (I was unsuccessful), I asked my GP for a referral for fetility treatment but because I was young (was about 27 then), single and didn't have any fetility problem I didn't qualify fo NHS help. I then paid and had a treatment at a fetility clinic (at £1200 a go). I was single, wanted a white donor, and wanted a donor who was happy to be involved in ou child's life; I found out not all clinics would treat you if you were single also as a black woman I could not have a white donor and finally I could only have very little information about my donor, and I couldn't have contact with him until my child was 18 (past all his developmental milestones). At 31 I realised I wasn't getting any younger or getting anywhere via 'traditional' routes, so I found my donor online and now have a healthy, beautiful son. This route was definitely best for me, I felt more in control and more relaxed, it didn't cost me an arm and a leg and my son has a dad who sees him every other week. I certainly don't regret my decision, if anything I wish I'd gone down that route earlier and I now run a website www.feelingbroody.co.uk for other women who find themselves in my shoes (or similar)

thanks seyjos very inspiring x