Can you please just tell me what you would do in this situation?

[KoolyNoody]

I cannot decide and feel I need some unbiased outside imput.

I want another baby. DH is so-so about it all.

I don't feel he would object but I also don't feel that he feels a massive desire for another child.

To me, finance is not an issue not because we have money but because we get on with what we have, ditto space.

Its just some part of me that thinks 'wait 6 months'

Maily because of a medication I am on, but I can take it in pregnancy.

But last month we had a 'scare' and I was so disapointed when my period came.

So part of me wants to go for it whilst DH is OK with it, before our youngest gets old enough for us to 'not want to go to the baby stage' again.

But part of me thinks I should wait - but I can't quite pin point WHY that is.

What do you think?

I also want to loose weight and can't decide whether its best to have another baby and then loose all the weight or to loose some then get fat again?

Well, you need to get to what it is that's holding you back...

How old are you (old enough for it to be an issue?) and how old is your youngest?

I'm not sure why part of you thinks you should wait 6 months.

I can only guess it's because your DH isn't super enthusiastic and you're hoping he will get more so?

I do think you need to work out what he really thinks, "he wouldn't object" isn't enough to have another child really.

But if it turns out he is quite keen - then doesn't sound like there would be anything practical to hold you back.

He loves babies, he loves pregnancy. He loves our kids.

I suppose theres not that 'lets do it, lets make a baby' thing going on like there was with our first, but is that common with men and folling pregnancies?

My medication is long term yes, chances are I will still be on it in 6 months time so no difference really.

I guess it may just be the 'scariness' of pregnancy thats holding me back?

Age is not an issue, no.

But in a way time is, like this WILL be my last and once I have this child then I can finally start knowing it is my last child and deal with that (DH will get the snip)

Really, I don't think MN can advise. This is between you and DH, surely?

It sounds like you and DH need a proper chat about the whole issue, so you can see where he is on the spectrum of indifference, and try and help you get to the bottom of what the benefits of waiting 6m would be. Its too big a thing to go into because you think you ought to and he simply doesn't mind.

Yes, of course.

But sometimes it helps to write things down first and just talk about something in order to get it straight in your own mind before having that chat.

Thankyou.