to cut a long story short i have a hild from a previous relationship but been trying for dc2 for 2yrs 9 months now with no luck at all, weve had tests which seem to show im not oulating but as i need to loose some weight and as i already have a child the consultant is refusing to do anything further about that. i was same weight when i had my son and used to hae regular cycles, now they are all over place with often not ovulating but consultant is decided he wont help me and i cant change his mind!! my dp has had the sperm analysis tests, first one came back that there were no sperm at all, were waiting on the result of the repeat of that test now, in fact will ring today to chase it up!!
so in this 2yr 9 month period my family have known weve been trying and that were under consultant but do not yet know results as were waiting til we know for sure if we cant have any due to dps sperm as if his comes back none seen again then regardless of wat weight i loose its obviously impossible!! so my sister got pregnant by accident when sleeping with her ex about 2 years ago and now has a 1yr 7 month ds, she is now trying for one with her new dp, im so upset for numerous reasons firstly being that she knows our problems and told me via a facebook message they are trying - i mean couldnt she have been a little more sensitive!?!? secondly she was quite open in saying she is sure she will fall pregnant straight away as shes very fertile!!!! (i wonder if shes pregnant already and just didnt say so!?) and 3rd, she is quite vocal about being able to go straight back to work when baby is born as she doesnt want to be a sahm like me as its lazy - my ds has a disability i stay at home to care for him and because childcare for him would be extortionate as he needs full one to one so even afterschool clubs or holidays would be pricey once he starts full time school so really i have no option but to only work school hours and even then not til he starts fulltime school (september).
its had me in tears all night, partly for the dc it seems i probably wont ever have but also because of my sisters insensitivity! or is it me thats too sensitie????