Can I have a rest tonight or should we do the deed again? (ovulation question)

[Norfolkbumpkin]

I am really tired but don't want to miss our chance this month, so can anyone help me out? I have been using the Clearblue ovulation sticks for the past 4 days. On Sat there was a faint blue line and yesterday it was very dark (darker than the other line). Today it is faint again. We have bd the last 3 nights in a row, and I am wondering if I can have a rest tonight as the main peak has passed or should have one more go? Does the strongest line mean that day is the best bet, or the following day?

One more time just in case... OV sticks detect the LH surge, and you can ovulate up to 48hours after the surge. So getting a positive Sunday night means lots of SWI until at least Tuesday night, and maybe even Wednesday am.

Thanks Delilah, I think I knew in my heart that we should carry on (bloody hell, I'm sounding like we are part of the war effort!), but I am just so tired tonight. This is the third month of trying following a mc so I know I should pay more attention to things, it's just the droopy eyelids and lack of knowledge of the ovulation business that's taking it's toll.....

Hopefully next month you won't need them, but can I suggest the digital version? I'm a true cheap-skate and always on the look out for the least costly option, but in this case I think its a couple of extra quid well spent. You only bd when you see the smiley face, then no need to test again. Last month we managed it the morning the smiley face appeared. (I concieved, but miscarried soon after). I am a convert now and will be using them as soon as I get my next af. All the very best of luck! x

Hi NorfolkB,

I was very sorry to read of your m/c. Would just add that the Miscarriage Association are very good to talk to if you have not already made contact with them.

You do not need a massive knowledge of ovulation; these kits certainly will not help in that regard. If you go down the route of timing of intercourse you will also put pressure on the relationship as well as yourselves. You need to take the pressure off both of you; you will drive yourself half insane otherwise. You are far better off having sex when you both feel like it and not just when you think its ovulation time. It is all too easy to get that particular date wrong.

These kits are misleading because they work on two misleading principles; namely that a rise in LH is immediately followed by ovulation and that there is only one rise in LH every month. Both of these are simply not true.

Ovulation is not an exact science and a woman can ovulate earlier, later or not at all in any given cycle. Sex two or three times a week throughout the cycle is fine.

Or - if you can manage it - sex every day from about CD7 to CD17.
It's killing me, but it's what I'm doing this cycle. Going with the theory that if I carpet bomb the egg with sperm something may stick

DH is veering between v happy and v tired

Also - come and join the TTC after a MC thread, everybody is lovely.