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very sad that we won't have anymore dc's - how do you accept that?

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CherryPie3 · 11/07/2010 14:18

Now, these feelings could be baby blues I'm not sure as I gave birth to my 2nd son 9 days ago.

My dh has decided he wants to book himself in for 'the snip'

We have 3 beautiful children and he has made no secret that he doesn't want anymore - in fact he didn't want more than 2 - he had a 3rd because I wanted more children (I've always wanted 4).

I don't feel like I'm done having children but I respect his decision and won't ask him to have more just to accommodate my wants. The thought of him having surgery as well is just horrible (I have a fear of surgery).

I just need advice on how to deal with this.
Right now I can't bear the thought of never being pregnant again. I've washed all of my maternity clothes and can't quite believe I'll never wear them again. I found a blank set of ante-natal notes and I'm hesitating giving them back - although I have no sane reason for keeping them. Sentimental? Or just crazy?

I never take for granted how blessed I am to have 3 healthy and beautiful children when so many people struggle to have 1, this thread probably makes me sound very selfish too but I feel so overwhelmed trying to face this. Maybe I'm just weak or weird I don't know.

I realise I've probably posted this in the wrong topic but I remember getting so much support here whilst ttc and also after my mc - I guess I'm hoping for the same kind of support.

xxx

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Miffles · 11/07/2010 18:01

9 days post birth!! Wow!! Congratulations first of all. I would imagine that your hormones are all over the place and now really isn't the time to have such a conversation! Can you ask your DH to wait a few weeks or months, until you are more in control of your emotions, so that you can talk about it more? After all, there probably isn't a massive rush in the next couple of weeks

Hope you can enjoy this special time with your DS without having to worry about anything else.

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