How do you cope seeing someone in pain?

[Hotpinkangel19]

I'm really struggling with seeing my husband in so much pain, and not being able to help him. It's heartbreaking. I feel so helpless. Those with pain, what helps you please?

Hey I’m single but the best way with friends on social media or in person. Is to acknowledge it’s not a good day. Seems obvious but saying it helps. They can’t fix it but few like someone has noticed.

Remind them how you value/love them. If pain stops you doing your best or the basics can make you feel like you are useless. Pain doesn’t change who you are but does change what you can do and how you feel.

Just being with them. Everyone is different I’m sure others be along with more
Helpful suggestions!

All we can do is focus on them. Push our own negative feelings aside (about helplessness etc) and try to focus on what we can do rather than what we can not.

What does your husband like to eat? To watch on TV? Does he enjoy any games that you could play with him? Does he prefer quiet or company? Could you buy him a nice book? The more you acknowledge his pain and try to let him be himself whilst in pain, the easier it will be for him as he will not have to put on a brave face for you.

Also make sure you offload - even if you only call the Samaritans to vent - it is important that you can have a weep about it away from him.