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Remembering those loved ones we don't have at Christmas.....

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whispywhisp · 24/12/2009 10:33

I hope I'm not duplicating a thread here..I have had a quick look and can't see anything...so here goes.

I've started this thread for us MNrs to remember those loved ones we won't have this Christmas.

I won't have my lovely Dad. Someone who was extremely close to my heart and always will be. This will be my 5th Christmas without him. He loved Christmas. He loved his kids and his Grandchildren. He loved nothing more than getting everyone together at this time of year.

I miss my Dad now as much as the day he died. He will always hold a special place in my heart and whilst I will miss him dreadfully again this Christmas I am determined to enjoy it because that is exactly what he would have wanted....

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ButterPie · 24/12/2009 10:45

Good idea.

This will be our first Christmas without DPs brother, Peter. He never even met our new baby who was born 3 months to the day after his death.

We will raise a glass to him tomorrow, and most probably have a cry.

herbietea · 24/12/2009 10:49

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whispywhisp · 24/12/2009 10:51

butterpie and herbietea...the 'firsts' are always hard....I found the following year after my Dad's death the hardest year of my life....

Hope you both have a lovely Xmas, albeit sad....xx

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whispywhisp · 24/12/2009 12:18

...bumping for anyone else who would like to add anything!

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TimeForMe · 24/12/2009 13:10

This will be my 14th Christmas without my dad and I miss him just as much as ever. I wish you were here dad.

We lost DP's Grandma last Christmas but I think we must have been in shock because this year seems much harder than last.

I've bought some flying lanterns that were mentioned on another thread and I'm going to let them go in memory of my lovely dad and DP's gran. And I'm going to cry!

GColdtimer · 24/12/2009 13:15

This is a lovely idea but there is another thread here in case you were wondering why there weren't more posts.

Marne · 24/12/2009 15:56

My Auntie Dies 8 years ago tomorrow of breast Cancer, she loved Christmas so much (one of those who had her tree up by the 1st of December and covered her house in lights), it was like she hung on to see x-mas day.

Hope you all have a great day tomorrow xxxxx

Marne · 24/12/2009 18:05

'died' not dies.

MilkNoBrandyForSanta · 24/12/2009 23:00

My wonderful wonderful nan

This is our 2nd christmas without her and it still hurts as much as the day we lost her. she was a huge part of christmas...never ever spent one without her until she died...a huge part of xmas will be missing tomorrow

Promised myself i wouldnt cry tomorrow but im starting now!

Hope everyone has a merry christmas remembering loved ones

aoifesmama · 25/12/2009 00:31

My mum, who I am missing for her 6th Christmas, but the first one since my darling DD was born and it somehow feels harder. Mum died at 43 and I have only begun to realise what a fantastic mum she was since having DD...and what a wonderful nanny she would have made .

I will be raising a glass and saying some silent prayers xxx

CardyMow · 25/12/2009 02:32

I am missing my dad for the 19th Christmas now, and I also think at this time of year just what a wonderful Grandad he would have been. He made the most excellent cakes, always made the best fancy dress outfits, and he always did 'santa footprints' under the christmas tree. To my lovely Dad. xxx.

TishTosh21 · 25/12/2009 11:35

Our first Christmas without my dear grandad, its going to be very strange without him around. We're all missing him very much. Merry Christmas Grandad xx

mumoverseas · 25/12/2009 14:39

whispy this is a lovely thread.
This is my 5th christmas without dad and my first without mum. I can't believe how much I miss them and feel so lonely. Its just not right celebrating without them and with empty chairs around the table.
I have to 'do' christmas for the DC but it feels wrong. It is DS's first Christmas so have to make a fuss but am so sad he never met his lovely nannie. Miss you mum and dad xx

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whispywhisp · 25/12/2009 16:14

Hi everyone.

Hope you are all getting thru your Xmas Days ok without these special people whom we loved so much.

I had a wobbly five minutes earlier on but my DH, who is my rock, helped me thru. I've not done too bad today..I normally cry thru the day but other than that wobbly moment this morning I've managed to get thru the day. I think, for once, my Dad would be proud of me for smiling most of the day rather than crying, which is the norm....and my kids have had a lovely day which has helped.

Hope you all enjoy the remainder of your Christmas Days...xxx

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tulpe · 25/12/2009 17:27

Thank you whispy for starting this thread. I saw it yesterday and was "trying" to ignore but found myself drawn to it this afternoon.

I would like to pay tribute to my beautiful Nan whom I lost 8 years ago now, and my wonderful MiL who passed away 6 years ago.

I miss them both so much and not a day goes by when I don't think of them. I haven't said anything to DCs or DH today - I usually remember them in a very private and personal way. Thank you for giving me a space to share, Whispy

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