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What to buy for a moody 14 girl goth type?

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Concordia · 18/10/2009 23:12

It's a niece. We don't know the family well (long story). So I usually resort to buying book tokens etc as that's what i would have wanted at that age. But i think her mum thinks we haven't really bothered.
I asked her one year and ended up spending loads on a computer game - 3 times my budget as it was what she'd asked for. And then i had the problem of upping the siblings budgets too. We really CAN'T do that this year so i don't want to ask again. Any ideas?

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Concordia · 18/10/2009 23:13

sorry i meant 14 year old

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aWitchForLifeNotJustHalloween · 18/10/2009 23:14

er, black lippy?

no, seriously, does she have an ipod or something that needs bits getting for it? What's your budget - if that isn't a rude question?

lilolilmanchester · 18/10/2009 23:20

I would continue to buy a voucher, maybe from a different store, and add a little something you think she would like ("Gothy" eyeliner/gloves/scarf etc). If you are worried about what her mum thinks, get her to help you decide what to buy... tho a friend of mine who is very anti voucher/money for gifts insisted her DD would love anything from TopShop for her birthday. I spent almost an hour in teh shop, she still hated what I bought and didn't like anything else in TS (contrary to her Mum's opinion) so took the refund and went elsewhere... would have been easier to buy a voucher in the first place. Tis an age where you probably can't keep everyone happy tbh. So I give the bulk in cash/voucher and add a token gesture for whatever floats their boat at the time

mummyofprincesses · 18/10/2009 23:21

A voucher for itunes or similar?

A nicely bound diary?

Eyeliner?

Gothic gloves and bangles from Claires?

Stripey tights?

Ronaldinhio · 18/10/2009 23:25

a sisters cd or maybe some cure for a baby goth???

MegBusset · 18/10/2009 23:28

Emily the Strange -- lots of stuff here

Concordia · 18/10/2009 23:31

oh, there's some good ideas here thank you. i like the idea of voucher plus little token gift such as gloves.
tempted by the sisters CD (as i would have liked that) but a more risky option
feel embarrassed to admit budget is only £15 really due to lots of £15 being spent all over the place by us this xmas

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aWitchForLifeNotJustHalloween · 18/10/2009 23:39

cor, you're more generous than us, nieces and nephews all get a tenner worth in my neck of the woods... £15 goes a long way on itunes - or on amazon for that matter, where you can get either music downloads or books or whatever your 'thing' is. My mum always gets vouchers and a small token "thingy" like scarves (in her experience, everyone likes scarves...lol) for the generations she doesn't understand

lilolilmanchester · 18/10/2009 23:44

£15 is plenty enough, actually very generous. Spend £1 - £5 on the token gesture, the rest on a voucher/cash/cheque. If your niece or her parents don't like that, then you're never going to win so don't worry about it - most teenagers would be very happy with this suggestions.

BertieBotts · 18/10/2009 23:59

How about a nice notebook or journal for her to write angst-filled poetry/dire song lyrics in? Maybe with black pages and a silver gel pen to write in it with.

A CD would be good but probably better if she could choose herself... maybe an iTunes voucher or something? (Only works if she actually has an iPod though)

TheBlairSnitchProject · 19/10/2009 14:12

Being a recovering goth myself ...I would suggest this

Corline is a book by Neil Gaiman who does lots of dark, gothy type writing and graphic novels so he should be sufficiently EMO enough but Corline was aimed at a younger audience so you're not going to get in trouble with her Mum for buying her inappropriate stuff.

You could get the DVD and the book for well within your £15 budget...

fillybuster · 19/10/2009 14:15

the 'death' series by neil gaiman is also excellent and perfectly safe for 14 yr old consumption (or, to put it a bit differently, i was 14 when i got into the sandman and death graphic novels and i don't think they did me any harm....). or how about an album by the cure or the smiths?

fillybuster · 19/10/2009 14:16

ooh, sisters of mercy, definitely, if she hasn't got that. can't go wrong with the temple of love, can you?!

TheBlairSnitchProject · 19/10/2009 14:17

Or "Good Omens" by Terry Pratchett and Neil Gaiman. I love that book even now...

TheBlairSnitchProject · 19/10/2009 14:19

Depends if she's goth or EMO though. Not sure an EMO would appreciate "sisters"

pointyhat · 19/10/2009 14:30

14 year olds are a nightmar to buy for, especially if you don't know them that well.

I'd stick to a voucher of some sort. Maybe with a nice bottle of black nail varnish.

VictoriousSponge · 19/10/2009 14:31

a snese of humour?

MilkNoPoisonPlease · 19/10/2009 18:03

aah having BEEN a moody goth type 14 year old, a boots voucher could go down well? or a borders/hmv one?

If you want to buy an actual gift then there's a comic strip called "Nemi" (any readers of the Metro newspaper will have seen it!) thats a bit gloomy but pretty good...i love it!

anything nightmare before christmas too!!

£15 is v geberous!!

VictoriousSponge · 19/10/2009 18:04

some urban decay glitter eyeliner

or some colleciton 200 stuff

and a tenner

Concordia · 19/10/2009 20:54

oh thank you everyone. i think i will do voucher plus little gift - nail varnish, gloves etc - next time (whatever her mum thinks) and have got loads of ideas for the next few xmas / birthdays off this thread.
went on the emily strange website that megbussett suggested and it was just her to a tee. I felt very old and naff for dressing in jeans and a fleece all the time. i have bought a scarf (before i read your post witchforlife lol) this time.

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optimisticmumma · 19/10/2009 21:18

Sorry if too late but an itunes voucher goes down well with any teenager - you can always put it in a box and wrap that up!

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