Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Christmas

From present ideas to party food, find all your Christmas inspiration here.

Love DH but wish he wouldn't do that last minute panicked 'throw money at the nearest thing' present buying thing for me !

25 replies

gaussgirl · 19/12/2008 14:47

Last day of getting on with it before I am overrun with the DCs, before Xmas.... DH and I have discussed the whole present thing. We have! I made it perfectly clear that 'little somethings' for each other are fine but really not an issue, esp as 2009 will be hugely expensive with moving a household load of stuff from abroad, here. The DCs are, as ever, WELL catered for. For DH I have a book (which he knows about) and a couple of boring work shirts (ditto). He has, for me, a book (but he did buy me a magnificent, desired thing for my b/d 2 weeks ago so that's perfectly OK!).

I really don't go mad with the wracking my brains for DH thing at Xmas any more (11 years of happy marriage, etc!). If he WANTS something during the year (usually computer wigetty) he buys it. End of. I, however, have to THINK about, then BUY presents for everyone AND pretty much from everyone to everyone else! Mum to my brother, brother to my DH, DH to HIS brother, his brother to my mum etc etc. Note the 'and buy' (they DO reimburse!)- oh, and often, WRAP too. I do it all, thus I seek slack where I can like in not having to be cunningly original for DH.

SO I am actually a bit annoyed- seriously!- when this morning, on the last day I can actually DO anything about it, a large box from Firebox arrives, a thing I know to be from DH to me. I am so aware I sound like an ungrateful old harridan here but a) I don't really WANT or NEED anything I'VE seen in the Firefox catalogue, a fact I believe my DH either knows or SHOULD know, otherwise I already own it, b) all he's really done is put pressure on me to go out and buy HIM something as a surprise, and c) we could really do with NOT buying fripperies for each other right now.

I know he's been nagging me via MSN (is that what it's called?) on a daily basis to rescue him from the 'I haven't bought you a present' thing for a couple of weeks (and I did reply 'You've only got a book and 2 shirts'- see above!) so I suggested a cast iron cooking pot which I of course, chose, ordered and will no doubt wrap.....

I'll shut up now. I'm Mrs Grouch because I, weeks ago when it was arranged, had imagined this day when I'd spend most of it pampering myself a bit getting ready for my works bash tonight, but in fact I've spent it wrapping Xmas presents for and to all and sundry, writing lists lists lists for Xmas Day itself, and writing last minute emergency Xmas cards to my DH's relatives... oh, and I have to take 2 boys with me, 7 and 9 to the frekken hairdresser's at 4.30 as A Certain Person simply COULDN'T get out of work an hour early.

And you're going to tell me that I bring it on myself for being so accommodating aren't you?!

Yes! I know.

OP posts:
HeliumBee · 19/12/2008 15:18

I aand MILLIONS of others no doubt can totally identify with this scenario.
Not a lot you can do now though... perhaps , say when you are both looking on the internet together or when he is in the same room say "WOW what a good idea.... that's fantastic -who woulnd't lke that?!" whilst gazing at these
And then remark on that's what everyone wants - i.e the time to lie in/back massage etc etc
Have a nice time at your bash!

sunnygirl1412 · 19/12/2008 15:28

I don't think you are being grouchy or unreasonable. My dh and I do stockings for eachother, and over the years, dh has done some spectacularly bad ones - where it's clear that all he's done is run throught the shopping mall grabbing the first things that came to hand. There was the never-to-be-forgotten duplicate year, when he filled my stocking by buying two of everything - two pairs of gloves, two sets of (practically identical) earrings, two identical egg cups ...... You could read the panicked lack of thought in every parcel.

Is it to much to expect that after more than 16 years of marriage, he'd have some idea of the sort of things I like - I don't expect him to spend a fortune, but it would be nice if he spent a little time and thought.

Still - it's a bit better than a former fiance who asked me what I wanted for Christmas - I said a camera but I knew that would be expensive so perhaps a contribution towards it - so he got me a necklace!

GrimmaTheNome · 19/12/2008 15:46

Don't worry. Present giving isn't a competition - you really don't have to get him anything extra just because a box has arrived which you assume is for you (its not impossible he's seen something he really wants!).

Hope its something that one of you will enjoy, anyway!

DoesntChristmasDragOn · 19/12/2008 15:48

Are you sure it's for you... ?

gaussgirl · 19/12/2008 16:17

Sadly, yes!

OP posts:
gaussgirl · 19/12/2008 16:19

I admit I was bloody tempted to peek inside to see what I was up against....

Now I'm off, WITH the DSs, once they've stopped fighting over which Gameboy game they're taking, for a relaxing hour at the hairdressers.

"WILL you two just sit down, stop arguing and be QUIET, PLEASE?" etc.

Bah.

OP posts:
goingslowlyroundthebend · 19/12/2008 16:45

Similar here, we do stockings and I can predict for absolute certain what will be in mine! He has already said to me, what do you really want for christmas... darling I really want you to pull your finger out of your arse and stun me with something I would never expect! That could so easily backfire though!

AnAngelWithin · 19/12/2008 17:02

my dh usually comes up with good presents, i had ghds one year, and this year he has bought me a radley bag but given it me early cos I saw him order it online However he has said he needs to get me something else as well to open on the day. Now seeing as he is working til 10pm every night and doesnt get paid til christmas eve, should be interesting!

AdventCandleQueen · 19/12/2008 17:09

DH has just taken DS1 out with him "to give me a break". What he's really going to do is drag DS1 around Tesco or Boots until he finds something I might perhaps like.
Despite the fact I have told him I don't want anything, expect anything, need anything.
So I'll end up with some worthless tat.

On the other hand, he did the same last year and I tought it would be crap, but he got me a Nintendo DS and I've been Training my Brain all year!

CharleeInPantoPaperChains · 19/12/2008 17:13

My dp is simply not great at buying pressies, its painfull for him and me so i give him a list of what i want or need and i try and make it as long as poss, he does the same for me then we each choose 3-4 things off each other list so its still a bit of a suprise but we know its something we are going to like.

This year dp has got me an awesome Yetti fur coat that i have been drueling over for ages!!!!!!!

gaussgirl · 19/12/2008 17:14

It took us years to break the habit in my brother. I mean, it's all still last minute but it's nearly always an amazon voucher- that I can handle (as opposed to the Humping Dog I got once- the final straw in 'allowing' him to make his own mind up!).

OP posts:
Mumto2littleangels · 19/12/2008 21:25

Mine is the same, we are all in the same boat here!

This year I bought some boots that I really wanted and gave them to dh to wrap otherwise I end up with lots of presents that I really didn't want/need.

However, he still thinks that he needs to buy me more. There is nothing else I want.

Arrrgggghhhhh at all dh's like this!

DoesntChristmasDragOn · 19/12/2008 21:27

I think it's this

DoesntChristmasDragOn · 19/12/2008 21:28

Or this

I have to say, if your DH is lacking in imagination and has simply clicked the "gifts for her" link, you're in trouble...

AdventCandleQueen · 19/12/2008 21:29

Very tasteful!!

DoesntChristmasDragOn · 19/12/2008 21:34

Does he think you need to get fit? Has he recently takenout life insurance on you?

starbear · 19/12/2008 21:51

I know what I'm getting but not what colour. (No emotion for boring shocked is close as!)A nightdress.
He is a hopeless shopper and I'm hopeless at giving him hints. I'm going e-mail him all year when something I want pops into my head and he is going to do the same and we will see at the end of the year. The best present I got this year, were two rows of hooks for my tools in the garden shed simple but fixed with love and affection and admired with love.

swedishmum · 20/12/2008 14:43

Last Christmas Eve dh went shopping, and phned me every 5 mins so I could look on the internet at what he was looking at. No big surprise but at least I liked it!

judgenutmeg · 20/12/2008 14:52

I think the novelty potato peeler my dh surprised me with a few years ago will be very hard to beat.

NorthernLurkerwithastarontop · 20/12/2008 14:59

I got a kettle one year.

It wasn't my only present - but I've never let him forget it.....

gaussgirl · 23/12/2008 10:35

DH actually suggested a dehumidifier at one stage...

Sadly it probably IS the maggie nut cracker or similar!

Incidentally I'm so glad I didn't get a tirade about being grateful and shutting up. I think we're all of one accord. We have enough 'kin stress this time of year we simply do not WANT our supposedly NEAREST and DEAREST ie those who should be supporting us most upping the ante in the present giving stakes so we feel guilty on Xmas Morning when it transpires we really DID mean 'This is the book you wanted, here it is and that's IT, as agreed'.

For the record I have 'reciprocated' with a wildly overpriced Stylophone from Hawkins Bazaar. At least the boys will play with it! But I am still 'annoyed' that I feel obligated to go 'out there' AGAIN to get anything at all at this stage!

OP posts:
fatzak · 23/12/2008 10:42

It was the year that DH bought me a necklace from the childrens' section at ASDA that I had to say something I knew that he hadn't got me anything by late Christmas Eve and I was so cross with his lack of thought that I sobbed on Christmas morning

girlywhirly · 23/12/2008 13:17

Northernlurker, my mum got a new vacuum cleaner from dad one Christmas! He claimed it was because she said she needed a new one.....

She was quite upset as he was the one who did the vacuuming! (Mum couldn't due to advanced heart disease.) It must have appeared that he was actually thinking of himself, although nothing could have been further from the truth.

My DH finds it difficult to interpret 'I like that' from 'I like that and want it for Christmas' so I have to be careful what I say! However, he is cautious about buying any form of moisturising cream, in case I am offended that he thinks I am wrinkly and need it! I would actually welcome it, I'm not that vain.

Really, the only way to go is write a wish list! DH asked me to, and I think he's been successful with it as he shut himself in the bedroom with wrapping paper last week-end, and the results have been placed under the tree!

WalkinginWaynettaWonderland · 23/12/2008 13:24

ROFL at this!!

About 20 minutes ago I phoned my DH to tell him that if he hadn't already bought my present then, unless he had a specific gift in mind, then he he could leave it till after Christmas. He has been known to do last minute panic buying and ending p spending £00s on things I neither want nor need.

Of course you do realise that on Christmas Day I will be if there's nothing for me to open!!!

asicsgirl · 23/12/2008 15:52

nothing constructive to add but lolol at your op. beautifully written if i may be so bold

New posts on this thread. Refresh page