Who buys the presents in your house...?

[frostyfingers]

Is it all you, mostly you, or is it shared? This year, as usual I seem to have ended up buying all the presents for the children, with practically no input from DH apart from the odd grunt, and all stocking stuff. Now, the actual buying part isn't the problem, it's the total lack of help or interest and it really gets me cross! I have bought for all my side of the family, and for his nephews. The other night, he said "what have we got for SIL and BIL" "We, I said, which we would that be?" "I haven't bought anything for them". This is because, browsing through my catalogues etc and making suggestions as to what might be appropriate for various members of his family all were shot down, so I gave up. Why do I now feel guilty....? Bah humbug, sometimes it's more hassle than it's worth.

My responsibilities are: DH, DDs, My family and our friends. This means I save for, purchase, wrap and send Christmas cards to these people. I finished my Christmas shopping in November....

DH has me & his family to buy for. That is, his parents because he doesn't bother with anyone else in his family. He has yet to buy presents for his family (I've bought two presents for myself, paid for them and given them to him to give to me). I don't think he has bothered to send his siblings a card in years. If he can't be arsed, that's his lookout - I have enough to do!

I do most of the worrying, I think. He's content to get some smellies for his mum (she doesn't use them, the windowsills of her bathroom are loaded with giftpacks fading in the sun), a bottle of whisky for his dad (he likes it, but it's every bloody year!), something uninspired for his sister... I make the effort to think what people might actually want to get. And yes, I do a lot of that shopping, too. He does his own wrapping. We do the christmas food shop together and share the cooking. I nag him to write his cards (all 5 of them - whereas I send 30-40 to friends. DH claims he doesn't have many friends left and I always point out that if he kept in contact, bla bla), I nag him to get something nice for his family instead of stale cliches.

Until quite recently, I also used to co-ordinate the shopping between my brother and my parents. They'd ask me what the others wanted, I'd 'secretly' enquire and report back, and chances are I'd end up shopping on behalf of my dad and brother too! TBH, I'm gobsmacked that I put up with this for so long, but being heavily pregnant last christmas put the lid on it and I have no intention of ever doing it again!

Me, who else?

Me

Me. I do the vast majority either online or actual shops.

DH always takes DD intot own for a morning to buy my gifts though, and he did call into a couple of shops for me to pick up two presents for other people - but I did tell him where and what.

DH usually gets the girls main presents and I do thier stockings. I get most of the nieces and nephews presents but DH does sometimes help out. DD" 10 got my 9 year old nieces present today.

if we are buying something that will actually be of any use to the recipient, that we are not ashamed to give then i buy it, if i wanted to throw away my money or buy a gift for my worst enemy then i would send dp

we share the shopping
we usually have a day out together to the trafford centre as dh doesn't drive, and we do the food shop together too.

i usually do all the female relatives gifts as he's a bit clueless about suitable gifts for them, and he gets his dad's stuff and things for the kids.
this year i have done a lot of joint gifts for couples so have had less to buy and tbh it's so much easier!
i often pick bits up in the sales too and put it away. in fact i only have 1 gift left to get and that's me done for this year