My 8 y.o DS still believes in FC but my bf's DS has just been told the truth....

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My 8 y.o. DS is very innocent, he just turned 8 this week and totally believes in the tooth fairy, FC etc. As we live in Spain, he also believes in the Reyes Magos (a kind of three kings thing with yet more presents) and the cagatio (a log with a painted face that poos sweets and presents, I am not joking). However, my BF told me yesterday that his exP told their DS (also 8) that NONE of it is true - she went through the list and told him no, it's all me or your dad. My DS and my BF's son are in the same class at school and I am so sad thinking that he is going to be told its all made up. Am I being over senstive? I can't bear to tell him myself. Any ideas? He is quite sensitive and I have a feeling he is not going to take it very well. help anyone?

you are being oversensitive.

Poos sweets and presents?

Could you tell him FC does in fact exist. It's only the cynical who think he doesn't and presents are contingent on believing....

Thanks ilovemydog, I am quite tempted to tell him that FC and the toothfairy never really came to BF's son because he is too naughty and that's why they always had to give him the presents (I am joking btw). Well I guess I'll have to wait and see what happens at school and deal with it when it happens. The cagatio by the way is a big log with front legs and a face painted on it. It is covered with a blanket and food is put out for it every night for the whole of december which gets "eaten" by morning. On the 24th, the children line up and hit it as hard as they can on the back with a big stick while singing Shit log, sweets and nougat, or else I'll whack you with my stick! It's so charming....

Yep, non-believers get no presents. I think my 9yo knows, but won't let on as we have always said that if you don't believe, then no presents.
Also, I say to ds that I do think there is a Santa, as he is a fairly huge phenomenon, (Santa, not ds!) and these things have to start somewhere - there must be a "truth" in it somewhere.

one of my ds friends told him when he was 8 that santa wasnt real, i will NEVER tell the children he is anything but real, although ds no longer beleives ( i overheard him chatting to his friend last year saying mums mad but i know he isnt real)he goes along with it and writes his list to santa leaves out a mince pie etc.

now i understand why on an episode of teletubbies ( one of ds vids when he was tiny) they had a song in spanish where the children were hitting a log with sticks- have always wondered why they never did an english translation- i know now!!!

FC comes to those who believe.. those who don't the parents have to do it.
nice simple answer

Thanks for that, I really like that one. Last year as he was reeling off all the things he wanted for christmas, I said he couldn't have it all as it was too expensive and he replied, don't worry then mummy, I'll ask Santa for the expensive stuff!

My ds went around the school fete shouting

"Santa is a fake"
i was most proud.

LOL wildebeest who are you
I have been arfing at you today

DD3 beliebed in Father Christmas until she was 11. She just took no notice of other children saying he wasn't real and would tell her friends that she thought he was real. So don't wory.

You are not being oversensitive!!!! my DD is 9 and still believes, well sort of, she has obviously heard loads of classmates opinions but she still swears blind he is real because she saw him in her room.

DS lasted until he was about 10, he is 12 this year and knows, but will not say and will certainly not tell his Dsister, he loves the magic of it all and will be outside spreading reindeer food and setting out the landing lights quite happily..

I think those who tell there kids do have a bit of a duty to remind them they are now part of the secret and should help to keep it for those who still believe.

If he comes home with questions you don't have to admitt it is true you can just say its all part of the magic and lets just wait and see, or what ever suits the situation.