Danae, now while she is little may be a good time to think how you want your family Christmas' to be.
I think alot of the magic of christmas comes form the little traditions that build up. We have found our 'traditions' have developed since having kids and they are not a replica of what we had when kids.
I don't go in for the FC thing in a big way, I underatnd what you are saying, they get most of thier FC ideas from school TV etc , but I don't dispel it, and what really amazes me is they realy seem to belive it, and DS1 is 8!! I mean come on son, how do you really think he does that???
...anyway..some suggestions for things that I thnk make christmas feel magical..
Twinkly lights
putting up the decorations togther
getting the decs out the loft and unpacking them and remebering all the things we've got, some from hols some made by kids etc
christmas music from naff to carols LOVE it
Coming out the Panto into the cold dark night and seeing the decorations up in town
Sally Army playing
Traditions we have developed:
Classic FM on chrustmas eve ALL DAY, we always put a request in but never had one played!
Fish pie made by Grandma for tea on christmas eve (not sure why but we do)
watch Snow man in PJ's before bed on christmas eve then go out all togteher to put up Snata stop here sign (while I roll my eyes but say nothing they love it)
FC presnts by fire in morning
Church
Drink with neighbours
Lunch (always late)prawn cocktail made by Grandad for starter
family pressies
playing/tv
kids to bed
tea, alcohol and games for adults.
I think yor DD sounds like an age where you will find these things begin to develop naturally, you'll do someyhing nice togther this xmas and think 'great we'll do that again next year.'
Do it more than twice and it's a 'family tradition'.
It doesn't have to be about FC and pressies.