DS 6 was asked to do a solo in school play came home in floods of tears what do i do?

[Lilyloo]

Basically he came out of school saying he had sore throat.
Turns out he was asked to sing a solo part of the xmas play. He said he sang the first line but has a sore throat.
He then burst into tears and says he is too scared of letting everyone down and doing it wrong.
I told him it didn't matter he had told the teacher he didn't want to do it. She explained that he can't decide to do it at a later date so to be sure he still said no.
I chatted to him and he then changed his mind (was this because he wanted to do it for me ?)was still upset saying sorry to me and 'he had thrown his part away'. So i rang school and teacher said she will speak to him tom. Nothing has been decided yet anyway.

What would you do. I don't want this to spoil the run up to xmas etc and him be worried as he loves school. On the other hand is it good for him to face his worries head on ?

Not sure what to do.

does he love singing?

How old is he Lilyloo?

I can understand you not knowing what to do for the best. You don't want to make him ill with worry, but on the other hand, he must have been good for the teacher to pick him for a solo in the first place.

Perhaps tomorrow she will be able to make him feel differently about it. Making a decision today might be a decision he will regret if he was just reacting with shock to being chosen.

My ds1 is 12 and has opted out of windband because he can't bear to perform as part of a group in concerts. I feel frustrated that he is not making full use of his talents, but he is 12 and it is harder for me to sway his judgements.

don't think a 6 year old should have to sing a solo unles s/he is confident about singing generally and singing alone in front of an audience. My dd would have been very nervous at that age I think. Does he have experience of this from choir or something?

Lily - Give him the night to think about and tell him that you aren't expecting him to do it but you don't want him to throw it away if he wants to do it.

Basically don't put any pressure on him until he decides for definate. If he then wants to do it, help him practise and PRAISE PRAISE PRAISE.

He is 6. He is in the school choir through his own choice so he must like it.

I did say the teacher must think you are good to be picked to him and he sang it to me and knew the song even though they had just started practicing.
I told him i will help him practice but when i tried singing it with him he told me i was mking him loose his tune

The teacher did say she thinks he was shocked when i spoke to her.

He is a really sensitive little thing hence the fake sore throat.

We don't know the reason why this song needs to be sung solo. I just wonder if he couldn't sing in a little threesome instead, that would take the edge of it and he might enjoy it more. Depends on the song/play though.

I think he sings the first section solo then everyone joins in the next section so not a full song
i did suggest him asking teacher if a friend could sing with him tommorrow.

Sorry but I disagree - he may think your taking it away from him or you don't trust or think he can do it.

Sorry that's just what I think.

Lucky never thought of that it's a minefield!

Will speak to him again tom and see what he says with no prompting and see what teacher says.

She may suggest something else anyway if she thinks he is too worried she is very good.

If a child really doesn't want to perform in front of an audience and is feeling ill at the thought of it, I would never make them.

You';re doing the right thing. Talk it through tomorrow but tell ds it really doesn't matter at all if he doesn;t want to do it. because it doesn't.