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Honest opinion- is this too much to get for dd xmas dp thinks it is

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lilymolly · 09/10/2008 19:53

DD is 3 in Jan
We dont really spend much on her at all throughout the year- plus she is getting new baby in March.

I was planning on getting her the following from dp and I

1 x trike £19.99 woolworths
1 x Pram and highchair set £29.99
1 x box lego £9.00
1 x dressing up cloths set £10
stocking fillers:puzzles, dvd etc £20 ish

Total: £90 ish

Is this too much?

DP thinks it is and that we should ask grandparents etc to buy one of the items so that she does not get too much.

Now I am all for not spoiling kids etc and the last 2 years where she has not really been aware of xmas we got her very little.

But this year she will be nearly 3 and I cant wait for her to open all her gifts.

I also think that I would like to buy her the presents she wants rather than other people- after all she is out PFB

For birthday she will be getting:
Scooter £19.99
Car Garage £20

Please come and give honest opinions please.

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brimfull · 09/10/2008 20:15

don't you think that it's telling you something if you have to spread the present opening over a day or two that your child is getting waaaaay too much?

EffiePerine · 09/10/2008 20:15

Christmas isn't all about piles of toys

verylapsedrunner · 09/10/2008 20:16

Too much when you take into account all the other presents from relatives

WeLoveFabio · 09/10/2008 20:17

My parents really spoil ds. I've bought his presents as they already said what they wanted to give him, and he knows what he wants, and I got them on a 3 for 2 thing at Boots, so Mum and Dad will just give me the money for their part of it.

However having done this I'm now having them say 'Oh, we saw this, and that, shall we get him it?' which just makes me go 'NoOOOOO' !!

They are really PFBGS (grandson) with him.
It has to stop because we are now getting tantrums in woolworths, it's horrifically embarrassing, he doesn't like it any more than I do but they;ve totally confused him by buying him everything he ever asks for and I am actually very cross about it. (as you can probably tell )

FTR he's 5, and is having a remote control insect thing, a small chemistry set and several transformers (the smallish ones). Plus stocking.

That is IT

nooka · 09/10/2008 20:18

I don't think you should worry about "sharing Christmas". It's not as if she will remember Christmas for more than a few months at this age in any case. When is her birthday? I usually get my children one big present, two or three medium sized ones (puzzles, dvds, books etc as they are quite a bit older) and then a fair few silly stocking ones. Is she likely to be getting lots of presents from relatives - I usually do a list for my family to choose from. If she will get this list plus a whole load of pressies from family then that might well be overwhelming for such a small child, and she may well not play with them all anyway.

nickytwoooohtimes · 09/10/2008 20:19

I think it's too much, but I am a meany. We didn't buy anything for ds's first birthday or CHristmas and last year he just got a few wee toys. He'll be 2 1/2 this Christmas and we're spending around £25.

WeLoveFabio · 09/10/2008 20:19

(that is from me AND them)

NineYearsOfNappies · 09/10/2008 20:23

Why not save one or two of the items and give them to her when the baby comes as a present from the new baby?

I would agree with your DP.

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lilymolly · 09/10/2008 20:23

I really dont think it is too much at all.

The reason for spreading them out throughout the day is so that she gets a chance to play with everything as she opens them.

It will prob give me a lot of pleasure also seeing her little face on xmas morning surely thats not wrong is it?

Some of you lot are a right bunch of stooges

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Original poster
lilymolly · 09/10/2008 20:24

Evie

I agree that Xmas is about a lot more than presents.

Can you be a bit more specific about what you mean?

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lilymolly · 09/10/2008 20:25

Thats a good idea Nineyearsofnappies

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WeLoveFabio · 09/10/2008 20:26

No not being mean really though I was the same as you...

It was just quite a shock to me not to have the fantasy I imagined of ds being delighted. I mean he just didn't really care iyswim?

It's all about us sometimes rather than what they really need or want.

I ended up opening it all for him and he just sort of looked at it all, bemused. I felt very silly

DiscoDizzy · 09/10/2008 20:27

sounds fine to me. DD's get more spent on them, DD2 is 3.

frumpygrumpy · 09/10/2008 20:29

I think thats a TOTALLY fine list from Santa. I would do that plus extras in stocking.

BTW, [pedant corner] why is she 'getting' a baby? Aren't you all having one? I have a pet hate about lumbering little ones with babies. Its not a big treat for her. Its a sibling.

frumpygrumpy · 09/10/2008 20:30

Oh I beg your pardon, I have re read your OP and I understand what you meant [arse]

JustKeepSwimming · 09/10/2008 20:30

last year ds1 was overwhelmed big time so a lot less this year. and we saved one present for the arrival of baby brother (end Jan). boxing day & in-laws + big new pile of presents = bored toddler who didn't want to open any of them

so you need to find out what the family are getting and maybe get less in response to that. or if you want her to have that list of things, get them anyway and just give them to her whenever, she won't care!

frumpygrumpy · 09/10/2008 20:31

I thought you meant you didn't want to get her too much for christmas as she had a March 'present' coming........

LOVE the Christmas list. Ain't too much. Tell DP to lighten up.

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lilymolly · 09/10/2008 20:36

Frumpygrumpy you are such an arse

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googgly · 09/10/2008 20:44

Sounds alright to me, but tbh at 3, just one or two presents would also be fine. They're not really expecting anything in particular.

ImnotMamaGbutsheLovesMe · 09/10/2008 20:50

I think the thing about it being her last Christmas on her own is more for your benefit than hers and it makes it seem like the new baby coming needs to be compensated for.

frumpygrumpy · 09/10/2008 20:52
mabanana · 09/10/2008 20:54

I think it depends how many other presents she will get from rellies, if none, or two or three OK, but that's a hell of a lot for one day for a three year old, who can be overwhelmed I think. But I tend to overdo things with my dh saying 'it's too much' - and he's always right

Original poster
lilymolly · 09/10/2008 20:56

INMGBSLM

Thats not the case- just want it to be memorable. The arrival of the baby certainly does NOT need to be compensated for its a wonderful thing for us all.

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NappiesLaGore · 09/10/2008 20:58

pah, they only really care about opening stuff at this age. you could buy them a spatula and theyd be happy.
buy what you want to buy her; if money is no problem, why shouldnt YOU get to enjoy watching her open stuff on xmas day? mind you, you'll be disappointed if you expect her to sustain interest/enthrallment. they can only play with so much at a time ime - the rest will fall by the wayside.

mabanana · 09/10/2008 20:58

She will enjoy Christmas much more with a sibling - it's not a terrible thing you are doing to her that you need to compensate for with tons of plastic crap (god, my house is full of plastic crap)
It's true that too many presents do not make children happy, they make them bored and confused and overwhelmed and greedy! I'd say get one thing you absolutely KNOW they will love to bits, and then just bits, so tehy can play with their new thing all day without you going 'but do you like the dolly pram/ninendo as well??'

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