DH ill and I am knackered

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Just need to offload really. DH fell out with his parents a week ago and it’s been frosty all week. We are hosting them tomorrow and now he is poorly with this flu I fear. He went out to pub this afternoon. For 4 hours while I did gift drops and is now in bed. I’ve wrapped all the gifts and will get up early to arrange them. (DC are teens and will be in bed past 9am I hope ). Stockings are prepped and food mostly sorted aside from potatoes and turkey tomorrow and shoving in oven. I’m just so bloody tired. He finished work before me and I wonder if he’s so stressed he’s made himself il. His blood pressure was very high last week after the argument and I think he will just be in bed tomorrow. I’ve not done the quiz I planned and need to sort in morning as well as making Christmas dinner now solo. I’ve opened the wine and will be in bed soon so I can leap into action tomorrow. Plenty are worse off but what bad timing ! I guess we’ve been lucky to know not to fall prey to the lurgy in this way actually on Christmas. Im
going to sleep on the sofa tonight to avoid germs. Peace and joy !

He doesn't have flu, he's just got pissed! I've had this flu and no way could I have spent four hours boozing in the pub. Tell him to step up and entertain his own parents, or fully uninvtite them if he's planning on just hiding away. I hope you have a lovely Xmas, he's being an arse.

Hmm, flu you say….after four hours at the pub….ok.

Flu? No.

If he has got flu and went the pub then he’s a selfish prick

Wow you sound like a very nice, forgiving kind of wife - I’d be livid. And if he can’t get out of bed and entertain his dp’s tomorrow I’d be cancelling them coming too - he sounds like yet another lazy arse man.

Nice of him to go to the pub with flu and give it to other people for their Christmas breaks. What a nice fella.

If he’s been to the pub he doesn’t have flu, he has a cold at best

Don’t do the quiz if you’re knackered, it’s not essential

If your DC are teens they can help you tomorrow, at the very least they can be doing stuff like setting the table

You don't go to the pub if you have flu.
You go to lay on the bathroom floor or lay in bed.
But you could go along with the flu story and cancel his family as you certainly don't want to be spreading it around. Then you won't need a quiz, Christmas Dinner etc...

Flu,lol!

Your post basically says, you've done everything, he has claimed to be ill and gone to the pub. He is not ill because of high blood pressure, he is perfectly fine. And he's taking the piss out of you.

He was a bit off for last few days with snotty nose and cough. Went to docs yesterday and he said it was viral. Seemed better this morning and went out happily at 1 to pub then I collected him at 5 and he said he felt terrible. He had a bath and then said he felt like he did when he had Covid. Meanwhile I’m whizzing about like a lunatic. I think he has somehow brought on this by feeling so stressed about his parents. I am trying g to get teen 1 in bed while teen 2 works at a bar. If I get to “bed/sofa” soon I stand a chance of being up at 7 then can be Santa. DH usually does scene setting. He’s peeled some veg today and made out like it was a huge help. I read a piece on Facebook earlier about being a Christmas fairy and though “that’s me - think of it, shop for it, wrap it, cook it and then organise it “. He’s cleaned the house but everything specific to Christmas was on me. I’m bloody tired. My mum has almost certainly got dementia and I just yearn to be young again with young kids and more able grandparents. That said. The row this week reversed my in laws hate my parents, so…..maybe not
loads of people dealing with a lot- see the Christmas Eve crying thread. Some really sad circumstances. The pressure is immense to be perfectly organised and make it magical.

🤣🤣🤣 he’s got the flu and went to the pub?! Back in the real world: he had the sniffles, went to the pub, then either got wasted and / or can’t be arsed doing stuff for Christmas. Why are you feeding into this nonsense?!

He went to the doctors with a snotty nose and cough? What a selfish twerp. Is he usually so pathetic? Sorry but you sound like a bit of a mug OP, but I hope you get your feet up now and have a lovely Christmas - sod doing anything else now.

So the doctor told him he had something viral and he still went to the pub! What a top man. Not only does he leave you to sort everything, he spends what little energy he has snottering and coughing on unsuspecting folk down the pub just in time for them to pass on his virus to all their elderly relatives on Christmas day.

What a fucking prince.

What was the row with his parents about? Why are you still hosting them if it was that bad?

AI copilot or chat Gp4 will do the quiz for you with the answers.. tell it what age range the people answering will be..for AI, so you’re prompt might be “please generate me a quiz that is family friendly and we have questions that an angel can answer”

The answer is he’s a lazy selfish prick

As others have said going to the GP as you feel unwell (enough to need the GP) then taking that to the pub on Christmas Eve ...just to share it around ..what a heart warming Christmas story

I’m not happy or endorsing it. He said he felt fine earlier and is now suddenly unwell again. It’s not ok to share germs of course it isn’t he felt well when he he went out. Said he had 4 pints but who knows. I’m trying not to be angry/ upset / dejected/ all of the above. It’s not ok. He shouldn’t have gone and now I am paying for the selfishness. Im
between fuming and just numb. Is he hoping il cancel the family tomorrow and leaning into it ? Again. I don’t know. I’m just so over it

Crikey OP, he really has you under his thumb doesn’t he. I hope once Christmas is over you will have time to reflect and make changes. He is treating you as a fool, and you are enabling it,

He felt well except he had been coughing and snottery. My DH is having chemo right now and is extremely vulnerable. People like your DH is exactly the reason we can’t spend time with our own family this Christmas. Completely isolating because vile selfish cunts just have to go to the pub and spread their germs on everyone when they are clearly not well.