All alone

[Mumto2at]

Husbands been out with our daughter and his friend to the pub, just found out his friend isn't doing anything Christmas Day- husband feels bad.
we're going to my dads house (same town) my dads been pretty stressed fitting everyone in his house and obviously has prepared food ready for tomorrow.
i feel guilty knowing someone is on their own, do I hope my dad says yes to him coming or is it unreasonable this late notice?

Is he happy being on his own? There was a recent thread and lots of posters (all women mind)were saying they wouldn’t want to be invited and feel obliged, that they were happy alone etc.
Who else is going to your dads? It’s up to the host really.
I personally wouldn’t mind, one extra wouldn’t make a difference food wise, but lots of pp wouldn’t want the intrusion/change of dynamics.

OP, what's wrong with being alone at Christmas? Many, many of us would love it!

You can't invite someone to your Dad's at this stage, unless you are absolutely certain you Dad really really wouldn't mind - it's not your invitation to issue.

He may well be fine, or he may not, but nothing to be done this year - as him over for a drink in the next few days.

There’s nothing ‘wrong’ with it but obviously with Xmas being such a family and friends getting together kind of time, many people on their own do feel lonely (whilst granted many others don’t), and I think it’s lovely that some people do care about them. Whether it’s appropriate or not in OPs circs is a different matter but @Mumto2at I think it’s nice of your DH to consider his friend 🙂.

Ask your dad not Mumsnet! It's his house and food.

Could you invite him for breakfast/brunch before you go?

He may be very happy to chill at home alone though.

Can you just ask him around for a drink in the evening? Your dad doesn’t have to worry about extra food then. If I was on my own I would be happy with that.

I'm on my own this Christmas and very happy a about it. I have made my own plans. It's lovely people want to invite me to things but I have been looking forward to having a day to myself for weeks.

Dont do it OP. It might tip your dad over the edge.

I'm one of those who would hate to be alone on Christmas Day but I would probably say I don't care about being on my own, whilst feeling sad and lonely.

You could ask your Dad if he has space for one more. Most people would hate for someone to be alone on Christmas day (I know my parents would, they invited my lodger one year as she would have been on her own).

This is what I'm thinking 🤣 I just feel guilty wish hubby never told me

Invite him to your place tomorrow evening for drinks and snacks and maybe a Christmas game if he likes such things

Ask your dad.

Your dad is already stressed so I wouldn’t add to it. The friend may be perfectly happy on his own.

I wouldn’t if going to someone else’s.