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The dreaded 'man you don't know well' one...

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Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 09/09/2025 11:03

It looks as though my DDs newish BF will be with us for Christmas this year and I've realised that I have no idea what to get for him! He's the same age as DS who will also be here, so I don't want to duplicate gifts, I don't want anything to feel 'generic' but I don't know what to get him! Obviously I'm going to ask DD for some ideas, but I thought I'd put it up here to try to gain some ideas for a 31 year old bloke who's not sporty, works as a mechanic - and that's about it.

General, but not generic, if you know what I mean. I've got him some toiletries so far and that's all.

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UnimatrixZeroOne · 09/09/2025 17:40

AudiobookListener · 09/09/2025 11:07

He's a grown man coming to your house as a guest at Xmas! He doesn't get a present he brings one for his hosts! Toiletries so that he has something to open while everyone else is opening their's is enough.

This is mean and horrible. Poor guy (not to mention the daughter).

AudiobookListener · 09/09/2025 17:52

UnimatrixZeroOne · 09/09/2025 17:40

This is mean and horrible. Poor guy (not to mention the daughter).

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Oh, it's not meant to be! Just a suggestion of how an alternative Xmas in a family that doesn't do big presents for adults might look.

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Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 09/09/2025 18:13

AudiobookListener · 09/09/2025 17:52

Oh, it's not meant to be! Just a suggestion of how an alternative Xmas in a family that doesn't do big presents for adults might look.

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Don't worry, I didn't take it as mean! Nobody has any way of knowing what sort of Christmas we have in this house and it was as valid a suggestion as any other!

I'm leaning towards asking Friend-Sister what BF likes to drink and do in his spare time and maybe picking up a few small bits associated with that. As I said, he lives on base most of the time so doesn't want lots of 'stuff' (his family home is another 300 miles from where DD lives, while base is 200 miles in the other direction), so I think those suggesting vouchers for experiences etc might be on the right track.

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OMGitsnotgood · 10/09/2025 07:00

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 09/09/2025 17:39

Lots of these are great! I should have said that he lives a few hundred miles away, on a Navy base and comes to visit DD at weekends, so it makes things a wee bit harder.

What about making up a package of ‘stuff he needs when visiting DD’ that he can leave with DD and not have to bring each weekend.. eg toiletries/lounge pants/still add a bottle of his favourite tipple that he can leave there.

Maybe that happens already but worth a chat with DD?

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Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 22/09/2025 11:25

If anyone wants an update here - I asked DD (who is dating said man) and she says that BF has a lot of overlapping interests with her DB, so I am duplicating many of the presents that I am getting for him! Things like beard oil, cooking implements, nice wine etc.

It's making my life a lot easier.

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Peclet · 27/09/2025 19:29

yay! Well done op and thank you for the update.

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