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Lighthearted wtf

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Itsaswelltime · 25/12/2024 00:58

DH and I are not exchanging presents as we haven’t got any money. For the same reason I also didn’t get any present, flowers, cake, Champagne etc. (i.e. what we usually have) for my birthday at start of the month. DH insisted on going out on a random bizarre errand today and when he got back I saw he had got me some kind of gift in a big fancy bag. I won’t lie, I was really excited.

At midnight he presented it and I saw it was from the florist and I got even more excited buy also confused as I couldn’t smell flowers. Anyway turns out to be some hideous novelty dried flower tat in a biscuit tin instead. I really hope it wasn’t expensive.

I mean wtf. How can you enter a florist and leave without a fucking bouquet?

Backstory I’ve had two operations this autumn and was in hospital for 4 weeks and generally have just been craving some flowers from anyone for all that time. It sucks being poor and ill and for a few seconds tonight I really had my hopes
up.

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ZippyCat · 25/12/2024 01:12

Sorry to hear about your operations I do hope your doing better now but I think you're being ungrateful about this gift that your Dh presented you with if you wanted actual flowers maybe some hints should have been dropped I'm sure he thought he was being nice to you here equally I'm sure it's all he may well have been able to afford is this as you mention not having money spare

MaggieBsBoat · 25/12/2024 01:15

Oh I am so sorry about your ill health and operations @Itsaswelltime . I know what it’s like to really want some flowers and also to not get them. I got plastic ones once - in the hospital! Basically I think they
are just dumbasses these men. I am sorry

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Itsaswelltime · 25/12/2024 01:21

ZippyCat · 25/12/2024 01:12

Sorry to hear about your operations I do hope your doing better now but I think you're being ungrateful about this gift that your Dh presented you with if you wanted actual flowers maybe some hints should have been dropped I'm sure he thought he was being nice to you here equally I'm sure it's all he may well have been able to afford is this as you mention not having money spare

Thanks, that’s very kind and I hope I will be much better very soon.

I didn’t give any hints as we had agreed that we were not exchanging gifts however DH knows I adore fresh flowers even just a supermarket bunch, I get excited even just passing a florist to smell and see the flowers and we always choose a bouquet for his DM when we go to visit her.

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Twototwo15 · 25/12/2024 01:47

I would love to see it, sounds bizarre.

SheSaidHummingbird · 25/12/2024 02:12

Photo or it didn't happen.

Also - why did he give you the gift at midnight??

ApparentlyRockBottomHasABasement · 25/12/2024 02:16

I’d love to see a photo, because it sound hideous.
So sorry op. I mean I know it’s the thought, but I’d be furious if DH had spent hard earned cash on something like that, especially if we’d agreed no gifts!
I guess he was thinking that, as you aren’t getting any fresh flowers dur to money, the dried flowers would last. Is he usually bad at gifts?

TyneTeas · 25/12/2024 02:58

I think he has tried hard to give you something nice.

If he doesn't understand and appreciate fresh flowers, or how dried flowers are a bit different he thinks he has given you a great present of something that is long lasting and that you really like

(I am not a fan of fresh flowers)

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Itsaswelltime · 25/12/2024 09:14

SheSaidHummingbird · 25/12/2024 02:12

Photo or it didn't happen.

Also - why did he give you the gift at midnight??

It is the tradition here.

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Itsaswelltime · 25/12/2024 09:16

ApparentlyRockBottomHasABasement · 25/12/2024 02:16

I’d love to see a photo, because it sound hideous.
So sorry op. I mean I know it’s the thought, but I’d be furious if DH had spent hard earned cash on something like that, especially if we’d agreed no gifts!
I guess he was thinking that, as you aren’t getting any fresh flowers dur to money, the dried flowers would last. Is he usually bad at gifts?

I have since found out that it was very expensive (I think he was massively ripped off as it’s small and really no expensive things included).

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Itsaswelltime · 25/12/2024 09:20

TyneTeas · 25/12/2024 02:58

I think he has tried hard to give you something nice.

If he doesn't understand and appreciate fresh flowers, or how dried flowers are a bit different he thinks he has given you a great present of something that is long lasting and that you really like

(I am not a fan of fresh flowers)

I don’t agree that he has tried hard. If he wanted to buy something he could have gone earlier than Christmas Eve, or on Christmas Eve he could have gone to any of the equally nearby and open shops that sell cheaper things which I like and had clearly asked for for my recent birthday (as I didn’t know then that we were doing no gifts).

I understand about wanting something that lasts, but it is fugly (he must be able to see this, he has excellent taste, far better than mine) and not something we would have on display in our home (doesn’t match anything) and also doesn’t have any smell.

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Itsaswelltime · 25/12/2024 09:25

Imagine like this in a biscuit tin with visible grey florist’s sponge underneath (any photos I’ve tried to Google are much nicer than the actual thing and sorry but it feels mean to take a photo of it and put it online, maybe that’s hypocrisy as I started a thread to let off some steam about it).

Lighthearted wtf
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Itsaswelltime · 07/12/2025 07:58

the hideous and expensive florist strikes again, for my birthday yesterday I received a ring box (yes, box, no ring) made of a paper rose (no scent) in a perspex box like one would put a mouthguard in

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Lookingforthejoy · 07/12/2025 08:03

He needs more direction. A bunch of simple roses from tesco costs a fiver.

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Itsaswelltime · 09/12/2025 20:54

Lookingforthejoy · 07/12/2025 08:03

He needs more direction. A bunch of simple roses from tesco costs a fiver.

I feel I have made it very clear what I would like, from very cheap and simple to more fancy and expensive.

I adore roses (favourite flower,he knows this) and would have loved even a tiny bunch. I absolutely love to receive flowers.

I need to get over it, I know.

If I am objective, I just marvel that such hideous objects exist and presumably that people buy them, as they’re for same.

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TY78910 · 09/12/2025 21:34

Itsaswelltime · 07/12/2025 07:58

the hideous and expensive florist strikes again, for my birthday yesterday I received a ring box (yes, box, no ring) made of a paper rose (no scent) in a perspex box like one would put a mouthguard in

Hahahaha I cannot believe this update a year later

I was reading from the top and kept thinking it’s probably not that bad, he’s probably thought real flowers die so this is better… until I saw the photo. Looks like the type of plastic shit you put on a grave 🤣 I dread to think what this ring box looks like

I’m also marking my place on this thread for December 2026 👋🏻

MILLYmo0se · 10/12/2025 09:49

Is your financial situation better this year OP? If it is why isn't he doing his normal gift shopping, and if not you need to be v direct next November that you want real fecking flowers and that is all you want. What happened to the crap arrangement from last year, did you bin/donate it? What did you get for his birthday this year?

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Itsaswelltime · 11/12/2025 20:49

Financial situation is slightly better but we still don’t have a lot of cash to splash. I tell him every single time we pass a florist or go to the florist to get flowers for his mother which ones I like.
I asked him outright 2 days ago if that were it for my birthday and mentioned 2 gifts he bought and organised recently for his dad and another family member which were way more thoughtful and expensive and what they actually wanted as both of them had delivery delays so I asked if mine were like that too.
Today I got a gift related to my sport but not anything I can really use and not anything I wanted which I think was quite expensive and also can’t be changed/refunded and a chocolate cornflake in the shape of a star that I said was cute when we went to the supermarket (I was going to make some at home; the supermarket one is massively overpriced.) I can’t really eat chocolate because of a health problem.

For his birthday he got concert tickets for his favourite band and a weekend away.

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Itsaswelltime · 11/12/2025 20:50

The crap from last Christmas is in the bedroom next to my phone charger.

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Itsaswelltime · 30/12/2025 22:03

There’s no Christmas gift, no anything. I think I really do have to pull myself together and LTB now. It’s not the no gifts, it’s the no anything. There’s more to life.

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