Am i being unreasonable?

[Bulldog01]

Our son lives in Australia, We have not seen him since 2017, But my Son and i are in contact via Facebook. This Evening i mentioned that i was going to send a message to our son, wishing him a Happy Christmas. My Husband said ok! I had asked my Husband , if he could Check the time In Adelaide,while i wrote out a text, husband said yes, he then received a Text from a old work colleague,which he replied to immediately! I went into the kitchen, to unload the Tumble Dryer,Husband says can i close the door,it's cold! my reply was i need to finish getting out your washing from the tumble dryer, hence the door was open.After dealing with that, i then asked my Husband, did you Google the time in Adelaide?My Husband said he forgot, I was not Happy at all, I mentioned that the Text to a old colleague could of waited, Sorry, our Son & Family,Are a priority.This sought of behaviour from my Husband, is driving me nut's, i have gone upstairs in the loft area, as i am so Pssd off with him. We have been married for 40 years, i find his dismissive attitude insulting to me,i am tired of feeling unworthy, compared to his old work colleague's. I would like to leave him for good right now.Sadly, i am 64 & i do not have the finances, to just get up and go. What are your honest thoughts? Thanks in advance!

Why do you need the time in Adelaide to send a text?

Is it just constantly lack of thoughtfulness? I think YABU as it's really not that deep but if it's constant I can see how it's the straw that's broken the camel's back.

This isn’t appropriate for the Christmas topic - you’d be better off in Relationships.

Clearly I'm missing something here but why couldn't you check the time before you typed your text? ... and why does the time matter anyway?

A massive overreaction on your part. Surely if your son has been there since 2017, you must know the time difference by now.

Do you not have a smart phone? In the time it took to ask your husband to find out the time you could have asked Google....

So if the issue was just that incidents, I can see why people would say it’s just an annoyance.

But you’re considering separating over it so I’m going to guess that it’s neither the first time nor the biggest issue you’ve had where you felt second best/unseen and unheard.

Im going yo say that if you’re seriously considering leaving but feel trapped then my best advice is to have counselling.
Because either you need to find your strength to leave (and it IS possible to separate at 64yo. You might also end up with more than you think) or you might find why you’re so resentful/frustrated and to get some perspective over it.
(I suspect the first option….)

@Bulldog01 I’ve also reported your thread to ask MN to move it to the Relationship section as you’ll get more answers there.

Fuckin hell, read the room people!
sorry your husbands such a twat, OP!