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Rude DB?

7 replies

cookingthebooks · 24/12/2024 05:49

Essentially just that, DB announced yesterday evening, rather blasé about it, he’s no longer joining us for Christmas Eve or Boxing Day. Both of which we have catered for and he’s a big guy so is counted at 2-3 in terms of portioning serving sizes.

He’s single, in his 20’s and living with parents, both of whom are coming. We had done the shop yesterday morning and bought quite a few items we wouldn’t have had we thought him not coming. I wouldn’t have cared a jot if he didn’t come had he told us in advance but the evening of the 23rd feels a ridiculous point at which to pull out. There’s no reason other than he wants to chill at home.

DH is very put out and thinks it’s really rude, it certainly wouldn’t happen in his family as they plan Christmas in October. My family are more chilled out but DB can take this to the extreme and DM seems to agree that everyone should be able to change their mind to the very last minute … but also everyone should be adequately catered for if they do decide to turn up.

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cheerfulaf · 24/12/2024 05:54

Ooh no this is a real piss take, fine if you don’t want to go but you don’t pull out 2 days before. As you say you’ve bought food specifically for him. Your mums attitude (which is fine if that works for her) has enabled him to behave like this. It’s rude, selfish and inconsiderate, I’m with your DH and would be really pissed off

Therealmetherealme · 24/12/2024 06:09

Let's be honest, 20's, still living at home, I can only imagine he still acts and is treated very much a child. He won't have any understanding of why it's wrong/the planning/the money spent on shopping. It's frustrating but he won't ever understand.

Hopefully the extra food can be enjoyed or frozen.

Justsayit123 · 24/12/2024 06:15

Don’t send your parents home with any leftovers for your db.

cookingthebooks · 24/12/2024 06:27

Justsayit123 · 24/12/2024 06:15

Don’t send your parents home with any leftovers for your db.

He actually said ‘you can send it home for me’ which DH was particularly irked by and grumbled ‘we aren’t running a take away!’

DB has been married and lived away from parents previously so he shouldn’t be completely unaware.

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Fairyliz · 24/12/2024 07:19

Why am I not surprised he is no longer married, he sounds like a spoilt man child.

Hope you can use up the spare food op and have a fabulous Christmas.

MrsWhites · 24/12/2024 07:22

You can’t do much about him choosing not to come but he’d be waiting a long time for a takeaway from me!

HelloCheekyCat · 24/12/2024 07:54

I'd rather put the food on Olio than send any home to him! or a local homeless shelter/food bank if you can check beforehand if they'd want it

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