What are you getting your DP…..first Christmas together?

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I’m struggling….been together 8 months but taking things slow (due to busy life styles), we are not spending Christmas together but I would like to buy him a gift but unsure what to get and how much to spend? He’s a big foodie but has just been told by the GP that he needs to eat healthy so my plan to buy his favourite foods has kind of gone out the window. He doesn’t really have many hobbies, likes history but very specific subjects, likes tarot but likes to chose his own card decks. He doesn’t really do jewellery or after shave so I’m a bit stuck.

What are you getting your new ish DP’s ??

I don't have a new ish dp. But back when I did. I bought us concert tickets. This was years ago when they were more reasonably priced.

What about an afternoon tea for two? (I know you said he needs to be healthier but surely they have healthy ish ones around) or an experience day?

Cinema tickets?
Coffee mug and cafetiere/moka?
Tea selection?
New gloves and scarf?
Tickets to the British Museum after dark sleepover (although I guess that's more for kids) or a special event there?

I think something reasonably priced but showing that you're thinking of something in the slight longer term...

Who knows? I could be wrong

Mine is getting a nice sweater, a couple of books and some homemade millionaire’s shortbread

took me ages to decide on that!

I’d discuss a budget together for gifts first of all so that nobody is left disappointed or feeling guilty! One of my best friends was in this position a couple of years ago and got her boyfriend some aftershave and a little chocolate hamper thing, which I’d say were totally appropriate gifts for a first Christmas, spent about £80 altogether, and she felt awful when they exchanged gifts and he had got her a lovely perfume, a beautiful necklace, a set of bathbombs/bubble bath and I can’t remember what else but there were other things, he’d easily spent £300+. It’s important I’d say to make sure you’ve got equal expectations in advance to avoid that situation x

I'm getting mine a good cooks knife, seems that might work here.

This is what I worry about though I have a feeling he’s quite tight with money so I’m not expecting much. I did tell him I haven’t got him anything yet and he just said “you don’t have to get me anything” but obviously I want too. I was going to buy him a voucher for his favourite shop (it’s like a mini farm shop that he’s mentioned 100 times) but now he’s been told to watch what he eats I’m not sure it’s a good idea?

I could get him tickets for a Gig, there is one he’s mentioned and tickets are not that expensive but he wants me to go with him and I’m not sure I want to go 😬.

This year:
expensive slippers he's picked
craft beer
coffee beans

Last year:
concert tickets
hoodie
gin

Year before:
Joules gilet
jumper
Supercar experience

I think a gift card for a shop isn’t that exciting, and he’ll know the exact amount you spent.

Tickets for a gig/theatre show/some sort of experience are good, something you can enjoy doing together.

Or a nice jumper? Book?

I looked at concert tickets but the only date is one I can’t make (he did ask me if I wanted to go), whilst looking I ended up looking at merch and ordered him a limited edition tshirt. He see’s this band play a lot but I don’t think he actually has a T shirt so hopefully he will be happy with the one I bought 😬. I don’t want to spend a fortune as I don’t think he will spend much on me. I have bought him 2 silly things, one that’s a memory of our first date.

Back when we first started seeing each other we got one another memory gifts, so concert tickets, Harry Potter world tickets, days out type of thing.