Should couples get more than single family members?

[stirfrypixie]

I have a few nieces and nephews (all in 20s), some single and some coupled up, in fairly serious relationships. I am planning on giving gift cards for Christmas but unsure whether to give the couples more than I give those who are single.

If you do, you'll really piss off the single ones. Ask me how I know. The partners are not your relatives. They shouldn't be taken into account when deciding on an amount.

If a partner is someone you've known for years and you would give a present to, give a separate gift card. If not, don't.

Ridiculous. If they're in committed relationships they're as good as family. I give gifts to nephews/nieces and their other halves.

Depends whether you are giving the gifts to your nephew/nieces, or to nephew plus partner.

If just relative, then same as everyone else. However, if to both Jack and Jill as a couple, then maybe more.

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If you were giving a single niece/nephew £20 then I’d give a niece and nephew and their partner £30. A little extra as a gesture, but not double.

I'd give them exactly the same.

I see it as:

With your own children you kids should all get equal and their partners get a separate token gift which is theres as they are a separate person (single kids wouldn't get anything extra). Example: say you gift £100 worth to each of your 3 sons. Say 2 of them have girlfriend/wife then maybe a £10 gift to the partner. My in laws usually gift me a jumper, my mam use to gift DH a bottle of alcohol which are standard type token gifts I think.

With nieces and nephews I don't think the partner would even expect anything. I have never received anything from DH aunts/uncles and he didn't from mine either (the only family member I have left only gifts to actual children anyway not adults).

Someone can gift whoever the hell they want and two people are two separate people not one person magically getting 'more'... how greedy does someone have to be to get 'pissed off' over presents.

I agree with all the nieces and nephews getting the same amount and then a smaller gift or giftcard for the partner, probably about £10 (we tend to spend £20-£25 on each niece/nephew but if we normally gave £10 we’d probably do £10 each). Where it could be tricky is if you’ve asked what they want and they’ve said e.g. John Lewis giftcards because we’d like to put it towards towards a new coffee machine, in that instance I would give one giftcard for the total amount, so that would be more than the single ones get. But the same total as for a couple receiving separate gifts.

In my family we give to the person, and everyone gets roughly the same. We are quite a small family though, not sure if that makes a difference!

My brother is single and I have a long term boyfriend. I would find it weird if my aunt (for example) got my brother a £25 gift card and then my boyfriend and I got a £25 gift card between us!