Gift help for parents age 50 to 60

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So for background DF and SDM - shes vile for a number of reasons but thats another thread.

No interests or hobbies from either, financially comfortable, dont 'need' anything.

Usually buy a voucher for meal or experience hower 'D'SM will alway have some snide comment/remark and often will.let lapse intentionally, not use or give away then lie about it.

Anyway again is the annual what do i get them headache, usually spend 100 but planning to reduce this to 50, only ideas are a food hamper....but she will give all the contents away no doubt to her own even more vile adult kids.

Any other ideas??? Not giving anything sadly not an option as there is no issue with DF aside from his choice in women.

Do the hamper or restaurant voucher and let her crack on with giving it away/letting it lapse? Don't spend too much thought on it OP, focus on the people you actually like.

Yes good idea, just so frustrating knowing it will go to waste or passed on when its my hard earned cash.

Don't give her so much head space. Buy them a gift card or hamper and sod what she does with it!

What do they get you?

Adopt a donkey/dog etc. for them, one off payment. Helps the charity and they'd be hard pressed to complain. And maybe chuck a nice box of chocolates in too.

Get your dad a bottle of his usual spirit (if he has one), or something similar, that way it will get used even if it isn't special.

Don't bother getting the SM anything.

Don't give it any more headspace.

Amazon giftcard and give it no more thought.

If she really is that ungrateful, I'd be tempted to buy them separate presents. If your DF enjoys a drink, a bottle of his favourite tipple. Or a little hamper just for him with treats you know he likes, clearly labelled for him. Or maybe a jumper. Then for her something like a houseplant or a candle. I'd actually quite like those ! If yiu spend less on her then if she regifts them you've at least spent most of the money on your DF

OP, why not do what so many families do, and agree that gifts for adults (ie all adults, including you) are not necessary. Because they're really not, and everyone will breathe a sigh of relief once you all agree to ditch this annual farce.

Buy them some flowers and a box of chocs delivered from M&S
and don't give them another thought OP

Toilet twinning certificate!
https://toilettwinning.org/product/twin-a-toilet-today

Sponsor a toilet in her name, that will tell her what you think of her while doing a charitable act!

a framed portrait of you and your kids that your dad and step mom can hang in a prominent place in their living room to remind them of you when you are not there.

I wouldn't be gifting her at all if she gives stuff away.

Get your father something and if she says anything tell her "Why are you bothered at not receiving anything when every gift I've got you has been passed on and given away?"

Don't back down.

Donate in their name to Doctors without Borders? Buy a virtual gift from the RNLI?

voucher to your father’s favorite restaurant so more likely to be used

is there a restaurant or place your father used to visit that isn’t local to him? Get them the signature consumable. So the bottle of sauce, the jar of jam, etc. more years than once, my father and his girlfriend have received a selection of sauces from my father’s favorite restaurants. She isn’t particularly a fan, but he can use them throughout the year and it’s “for the kitchen” so it’s a joint gift.

send meat. Not a hamper, have a good quality cut of meat delivered. Not possible to coordinate perfectly with Christmas morning, but you can wrap up a note that it is being delivered. Much harder to ignore something that will go bad.

Donate in their name to Doctors without Borders? Buy a virtual gift from the RNLI?

Sponsor a guide dog. They'll get a fluffy toy too

When I was pressurised into buying a gift for someone I very much disliked I sponsored a well or a donkey or something (it was years ago!)
The person in question was a narcissist, mean and incredibly selfish so I knew she'd absolutely hate this gift but not really be able to complain about it
Bitter moi?
(I do believe you can sponsor a pile of poo now...)

Love this idea!!

He doesnt have any favourite resturant and doesnt drink. He honestly doesnt 'like' anything, he has zero interests and just works or sleeps.
I think a charity hamper is a good idea.
They give us a voucher, so we essentially exchange same value voucher.