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Advent box instead of Xmas Eve box?

86 replies

MissAtomicBomb1 · 24/10/2024 22:24

Anyone else do this?

My DC haven't been particularly enthused about Christmas Eve boxes and it seems a bit close to the big day to be properly appreciated.
Thinking of putting together an advent box, as something similar went down really well the other year. It seemed more exciting somehow and the gifts could be appreciated in the few weeks leading to Xmas.
Ideas so far...advent calendar (obviously!) Xmas PJs, a Christmas themed story book (read the Christmas pig through Dec last time). tree decoration

Any other ideas? 🎅🏻

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AutumnLeaves24 · 25/10/2024 18:24

Tel12 · 25/10/2024 17:45

All sounds way too much. When do you say it's enough?

@Tel12

too much what???

too much effort bringing a box out?

too much fun?

too much tradition?

too much re use of bedding/throws/cushions?

too much ENJOYMENT??

what exactly??

LePetitMaman · 25/10/2024 18:28

SomeFinElse · 25/10/2024 17:17

Genuinely foxes me how people have the time, will, inclination, money or energy to get so enthused about buying & assembling needless piles of “cosy crimbo PJ’s / hot choccy / nice smellies / xmassy mugs / new Xmas books / cosy Xmas movies” blah blah blah. It’s just the net result of people swallowing the bollox that “making memories” = perfectly curated lavishment of themed gifts for dreamt-up reasons, and all worthy of Instagram, so everyone can see how meticulously you’ve planned another perfect experience for your little darlings.

🤮

Perhaps you could explain how that applies to what we do? Post is a few posts up...

LePetitMaman · 25/10/2024 18:32

AutumnLeaves24 · 25/10/2024 18:19

No it's NOT just people swallowing the 'making memories' bollocks.

its people following tradition, making their home cosy & nice. It's about enjoying things year after year or buying OK's for growing children that happen to have a Christmas theme.

plenty of us don't do SM, do NOTHING to do with insta or anything but pure enjoyment.

sorry that personal enjoyment is an alien concept to you.

I can confirm none of my stuff goes on SM. It's very telling what some people surround themselves with, as to how they think others operate.

I'm clearly doing this, er.... bollox 4 my li-ull darlinns well bad, ain't I.

PrimalLass · 25/10/2024 18:48

Needmorelego · 25/10/2024 16:24

All those saying "it's too much" or "they get plenty on Christmas Day" etc - do none of you do preparations before the day? Or go to Christmas events like markets or carol services?
All the Christmasy stuff pretty much happens in December - the Big Day is like the end.
What child wants a Christmas themed book or a make your own tree decoration set on the actual day? They won't get chance to make/read it because so much is going on.
The whole of December is the best bit and feels much more Christmasy.
In my humble opinion.

Yes we did stuff - we didn't get more stuff. It would have exploded my mind to add more objects into my house before Christmas Day.

Needmorelego · 25/10/2024 19:05

@PrimalLass surely you buy new stuff from time to time?
A Christmas book your children love at age 3 won't interest them when they are teens.
I make new decorations because I enjoy crafts - so I buy new bits and bobs or sets if needed. I also have a tradition of buying a new tree decoration or two each year - because I get enjoyment out of finding a nice new one.
These things all come under my Christmas budget so I am just "adding more objects" too my home throughout December rather than just on the 25th.
Is that so awful?

SomeFinElse · 25/10/2024 19:13

LePetitMaman · 25/10/2024 18:32

I can confirm none of my stuff goes on SM. It's very telling what some people surround themselves with, as to how they think others operate.

I'm clearly doing this, er.... bollox 4 my li-ull darlinns well bad, ain't I.

If you’re referring to my post, that’s an erroneous assumption. I ditched Facebook years ago (and have never visited instagram) when I realised what an absolute soul-sapping hell hole social media was becoming for psychological well-being and of social trends… And also because I got sick of looking at pictures of families in matching Christmas pajamas opening their ‘Christmas boxes’ whilst supping hot choccies, entranced by the consumerist and perfectionist rubbish they’ve fallen for without even realising. I wonder if Marx was alive these days if he’d have decreed hot choccy ‘the opiate of the masses’. 😝

I’m not sure what you mean by: “bollox 4 my li-ull darlinns well bad, ain't I” …I assume you’re mocking the kind of person/educational attainment you think I am/have? But you missed the final question mark; despite being a rhetorical question it still needs one. HTH.

Love how you’ve leapt to judge me, exposing your own snobbery! My spelling of ‘bollox’ was ironic. I learnt about irony in my 3 degrees / medical training. But as these people you’re mocking say: “you do you babe!” 😘

Fargo79 · 25/10/2024 19:46

Blimey the judgy brigade have jumped on this one 🙄

I get the anti-consumerism sentiment. I hate the idea of all the endless unnecessary tat that ends up in landfill by January. Environmental nightmare. But not everyone who gets their kids an advent box or a Christmas Eve box is guilty of that.

OP, I have started doing an advent box for my children because they love to have a Christmas chapter book to read and they both love crafts and Christmas movie nights throughout December. So I get them each a Christmas book, a Christmas themed craft kit of some description (cross stitch this time), and a couple of snacks to have with their movies. They also each get a Christmas jumper because I buy one every year anyway (off Vinted) for school Christmas jumper day and for their Christmas parties at their various clubs. It's no good giving these things on Christmas Day. That's too late for Christmas themed stuff.

If someone wants to be cross that I've bought my kids a couple of books, a jumper and some popcorn then that's up to them 🤷

PrimalLass · 25/10/2024 20:58

I do t mean to be judgey - it's advice. I hugely regret buying so much crap over the years that my kids were not bothered about.

PrimalLass · 25/10/2024 21:07

Needmorelego · 25/10/2024 19:05

@PrimalLass surely you buy new stuff from time to time?
A Christmas book your children love at age 3 won't interest them when they are teens.
I make new decorations because I enjoy crafts - so I buy new bits and bobs or sets if needed. I also have a tradition of buying a new tree decoration or two each year - because I get enjoyment out of finding a nice new one.
These things all come under my Christmas budget so I am just "adding more objects" too my home throughout December rather than just on the 25th.
Is that so awful?

Of course - but looking back on it at least 50% of what I bought for my kids I shouldn't have. I wish I'd done more things not bought more things.

Needmorelego · 25/10/2024 21:25

@PrimalLass well yes that's true. The thing is you'll not know if your children are going to enjoy or use something until you try it.
It's always going to be hit and miss with kids.
My daughter (16 now) isn't that interested in all the Christmasy things I do - so I do it for me really.

UnimaginableWindBird · 25/10/2024 21:35

My kids are now in their mid-late teens and I don't have a single regret about their Advent or Christmas Eve boxes. I have extremely happy memories of coming home from the Advent service at church each year to find a basket on the doorstep, glowing with fairy lights with a letter inside from the Christmas Elf telling us all about what she'd been up to that year. We would hang the advent calendar up and take out the first figure, light the candle for the first Sunday of Advent, set up the Nativity set so that Mary and Joseph could start their journey, hang paper stars in the window, sprinkle a few drops of scented oil on the radiator pot pourri bag and eat lebkuchen. At bedtime, we could choose a book. Some of them (The Box of Delights, The Dark is Rising, The Story of Holly and Ivy, The Jolly Christmas Postman) were books from my own childhood. Others like The Grinch Who Stole Christmas and A Boy called Christmas were I bought, but which were read for several years.

Everything was a one-off purchase which got years' worth of use apart from the lebkuchen, candy canes, mulled wine, candles and I think over the past 15 years or so I've gone through 3 or 4 bottles of White Company Winter scented oil.

I had very little money when my children were little. We couldn't afford mindless consumption. But we could choose to make ordinary everyday affordable things feel special, and that's what the boxes were all about.

And I know people who had even less money who did have advent boxes full of pound shop bargains, and those boxes also brought joy to the kids and the parents, because when you have nothing one of the very worst things is never being able to be generous or extravagant, and a box of cheap treats allows people to do just that in a small way at a time when things are often really stressful. That extra tenner won't buy a big ticket to, but will give a day of fun for less than the bus fare for a walk in the woods or hot chocolate and a biscuit in a cafe.

Ineffable23 · 25/10/2024 21:37

I can understand e.g. everyone having a Christmas mug, or Christmas bedsheets or the set of Christmas books etc. If you are reusing it all, it's no worse to put it in a box and probably makes it more special.

It does seem unnecessary where it's being used to buy lots of new things every year (rather than just occasionally, obviously if you drop and break your Christmas mug you will require a new one), but actually reading what people aren't doing it's really mainly not being used as a big consumption opportunity.

LePetitMaman · 25/10/2024 21:40

SomeFinElse · 25/10/2024 19:13

If you’re referring to my post, that’s an erroneous assumption. I ditched Facebook years ago (and have never visited instagram) when I realised what an absolute soul-sapping hell hole social media was becoming for psychological well-being and of social trends… And also because I got sick of looking at pictures of families in matching Christmas pajamas opening their ‘Christmas boxes’ whilst supping hot choccies, entranced by the consumerist and perfectionist rubbish they’ve fallen for without even realising. I wonder if Marx was alive these days if he’d have decreed hot choccy ‘the opiate of the masses’. 😝

I’m not sure what you mean by: “bollox 4 my li-ull darlinns well bad, ain't I” …I assume you’re mocking the kind of person/educational attainment you think I am/have? But you missed the final question mark; despite being a rhetorical question it still needs one. HTH.

Love how you’ve leapt to judge me, exposing your own snobbery! My spelling of ‘bollox’ was ironic. I learnt about irony in my 3 degrees / medical training. But as these people you’re mocking say: “you do you babe!” 😘

Appear to have touched a nerve.

You'll know about those from all the medical training 😂😂😂

? Et voila. The missing question mark, which was deliberate to go with the lack of grammar and bollox hun speak from your post. Strangely you didn't get the irony you think medical degrees somehow qualify you for....

ITSSSSCHRISTMASSS · 25/10/2024 21:44

Lots of people do Dec 1st boxs. I’m big on Christmas but have drawn the line at both Dec 1st and Christmas Eve boxs.

Advent calendars arrive on Dec 1st, some years they arrive with PJs and slippers, usually every 2. Throughout December the elf’s still come and they will bring an odd treat, usually something festive themed to coincide with a school event, festive necklaces, hair accessories etc..

We have so many books it’s pointless buying more. Hot chocolate is only drunk by 1 child out of 3. And most importantly it’s another thing for me to pack away and hide, there is more than a good chance I won’t find them most years.

Im not knocking others that do it, I know some grew up with these boxes so it’s very embedded in their traditions, it’s just not for me and given I’m the one doing the hard work I’m not doing them.

PrimalLass · 25/10/2024 21:49

Needmorelego · 25/10/2024 21:25

@PrimalLass well yes that's true. The thing is you'll not know if your children are going to enjoy or use something until you try it.
It's always going to be hit and miss with kids.
My daughter (16 now) isn't that interested in all the Christmasy things I do - so I do it for me really.

My daughter is 16 too. She still loves new PJs at Christmas but our favourite thing is going to the Christmas ice skating. Tbf that probably costs more than an advent box!

MissAtomicBomb1 · 25/10/2024 22:19

Oh blimey, the grinches have certainly descended since I last popped on Grin

Some of you have misunderstood the thread title, I wasn't actually asking for opinions on whether people think they are a good idea or not.
As mentioned, we don't do elf on the shelf, visit Santa or have Xmas Eve boxes so no, it's not 'too much stuff'
If you don't like them that's fine. Don't do it. The door is that way so off you pop >>>>

Thank you to the rest of you, some brilliant ideas! Hope they have helped others too.

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DancingQueen2018 · 25/10/2024 22:26

We do them. DD2 told me today it’s her favourite Christmas r tradition (they had to say at school last year). The elves always bring an advent calendar and some other bits (last year it was an Xmas throw, hot water bottle and Christmas accessory). This year I think it will be PJs, headbands and a couple of other bits. We also have a special breakfast.

doneandone · 25/10/2024 22:32

We do this.
Advent calendars, Christmas pjs and a few Christmas chocs/mug etc on 1st dec. bought dds advent calendar last month (tends to sell out quick). Always struggle to find a decent advent calendar for teen ds though.

Mumwithbaggage · 25/10/2024 22:37

I made Advent activity boxes for my adult children - alreay given them out as I won't see them before Christmas. Some things to do/make - those Christmas trees you "grow", fancy hot choc, make a reindeer with a bag of bits they might choose to use, dingbats quiz, make something out of origami paper (I made an origami star and attached it to label), Christmas cutter - make cookies or have Christmas shaped toast, a Christmas candle (White Company little candles), a few other things. Also a list of challenges - give to a foodbank, eat a Christmas snack, watch a Christmas movie etc etc. They liked the idea and I feel a little bit Christmassy already.

PrimalLass · 25/10/2024 22:45

Sorry @MissAtomicBomb1 but if you post you will get replies. I wish I'd listened 15 years ago.

UnimaginableWindBird · 25/10/2024 23:27

@PrimalLass I'm curious about how you did Advent boxes and which bits you regret, or how you would do things differently with hindsight?

Would you do a box but with activities rather than stuff? What would you leave out? What would you do instead? What things did you do that were meaningful and which, with hindsight, you would still do off you had that time over again?

That's about a million questions but you seem to have a genuinely useful alternative perspective.

Personally, I would ditch the jigsaw, because while I like the idea of being the sort of person who replaces by doing as 1000 piece jigsaw between Christmas Eve and new years Day, I have never been that person and strongly suspect that I never will.

Frozensnow · 25/10/2024 23:30

My sister does the Xmas eve box on 1st dec instead. Which I think is quite a good idea. They wear their Xmas pjs all month and read the Xmas stories before bed and enjoy the Xmas themed hot chocolate, baking stuff or whatever.

i wouldn’t do a gift every day before Xmas. I realise some advent calendars are like this- we just have the big standard dairy milk ones though. I do think a Xmas eve box on dec first instead makes sense though. I would do it for mine but my son will not wear matching Xmas pjs with his sister so they just get normal pjs that work for the whole year. And they only get some hot chocolate and popcorn for a film.

SomeFinElse · 25/10/2024 23:36

LePetitMaman · 25/10/2024 21:40

Appear to have touched a nerve.

You'll know about those from all the medical training 😂😂😂

? Et voila. The missing question mark, which was deliberate to go with the lack of grammar and bollox hun speak from your post. Strangely you didn't get the irony you think medical degrees somehow qualify you for....

Why does me pushing-back against the rampant consumerism and commodification of Christmas make you assume I use “bollox hun speak”? Genuinely mystified how your brain has grasped around in its understanding of social mores and structures…and come up with that conclusion. Truly bizarre. Oh and you couldn’t be more wrong 😉.

It’s ok though, I don’t need you to validate my speech, writing or intelligence. I’ll sleep exceedingly well tonight having only my almost-decade at university, career in psychiatry and most importantly my grade 3 trampolining certificate.

SomeFinElse · 25/10/2024 23:39

Also @LePetitMaman - I trust your username is also ironic?

Daisybuttercup12345 · 25/10/2024 23:41

More unnecessary expense.
An advent calendar will be fine.