To keep some back for boxing day

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Hi. Wwyd in this situation.

All dcs Inc step dc have the same amount of money spend on them.
However dsc items are much more expensive. So therefor less presents.

Our youngest 2 don't really understand money but would see dsc for example has 10 gifts and they have 20. And they will ask why dsc don't have as much things.

So would you keep the ' excess' gifts for boxing day when dsc gone to their mums for their Xmas.

Dsc would completely understand theirs are more expensive so less gifts but as I say the younger ones will question it.

For example one fragrance for dsc was £68. Dd could have 3 gifts for that .

I also don't want to buy loads of unnecessary tat to bulk out dsc pile because they're hard enough to buy for and without a doubt would be left unused

No. Why can't you just provide an answer?

Honestly, maybe I'm a reealllly bad parent but perhaps you don't need to spend as much on the younger ones, perhaps they only need 10 presents too?

I think this would be unnecessary. When they’re reunited, is there a chance it would come out, and then it sounds even worse that some of the ch got secret gifts the next day?
I don’t see what’s wrong in just being honest, my brother and I always had different amounts and a) we never questioned it, we we’re happy with our own gifts
b) if we had, I’m sure our parents would’ve said something like “well these ones cost a little more for Santa to make” or whatever!

You're making it a lot more difficult than it needs to be.

"Why does John only have three presents, and I have five?"

"Because some presents take much longer for Father Christmas to make, so he doesn't bring as many."

So spend less on the younger ones. One day they will be the age of the dsc & have more expensive tastes..
When the dsc were young no-one was keeping up with what they were spending on older ones.

It doesn't have to be fair in the moment - just overall.

Give equal presents and bank the difference for your DC for trips or other treats throughout the year.

I would never buy 10 presents for any child, nevermind 20!

However, I understand these are just examples so in your situation I would just spend less on the younger children's presents. I think too many presents become too overwhelming anyway and it's not appreciated.

If you really want to spend the same amount then just put the excess money into their savings accounts. You never know what life will look like when they are older and it's likely that the money will come to better use then.

Yes . Thank you. That's a good idea.