Has anyone else just had a thoroughly rubbish Christmas?

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I feel like I'm the only one not posting awesome pictures and saying what a great time we had.

My DD7 and my DS3 have had, what I can only put down to, is good poisoning. Except they've had it at seperate times. DS had it 23rd Dec/24th Dec and DD got it 25th Dec. We had a meal out on the 23rd. All kids in attendance had a hot dog and all kids have been sick.

However DD7 didn't start getting sick till late Xmas day. So she had probably been feeling rubbish all day but didn't realise. But because of this she has had strop after strop after strop. Mostly because she wanted everything out all at once and we said no because of various reasons. At one point she asked for her playdoh out 10 minutes before Xmas dinner. That launched her into a tirade of how much we don't love her, we don't care about her and it's the worst Xmas ever.

I just feel so rubbish because we work so hard to make Christmas special and magical. Most kids just want cuddles when they're ill but not my DD. And the fact we only get so many magical Christmases with our kids and now I feel like we've lost one.

I'm sure people have had worse Xmases for various reasons but yeah. Just feeling a bit miffed and deflated after this year so was just wondering if anyone is in the same boat.

No, but I have been in the past. How about having a special meal at new year, maybe with some fireworks.

We always go to DHs mom's for new year. Looking forward to it.

I really sympathise! I managed a normal one this year but last year I was in the a&e waiting room all evening and in 2020 it was cancelled due to Covid and my kids had frozen lasagne. Next year will be good for you I am sure, it’s the law of averages when you have kids that some will be crap thanks to illness.

I'm feeling like this but for different reasons. Some dc can't cope with the 'differentness' and pressure of Christmas which culminates in this type of behavior. One of mine was like this, I hated Christmas as a child, the tension, out of control adults and family members who you don't see any other time. Don't enjoy it now and feel sick to death of the feeling I'm getting it wrong when I say no to something or try to put in a boundary. I'm really overwhelmed and feel my MH illness triggering. If I say what I need I feel in the wrong. Partner and I not communicating today and he refused to come to our family lunch yesterday, lots of complex stuff in the background but I'm looking forward to a bit of Christmas cheer or to get it all out the way!

Last year was a rubbish Xmas with everyone bar me sick and useless! Xmas dinner in the bin it was awful so my sympathies ate with you!

this year we had my DH mentally unwell brother, I’m exhausted he was such hard work, I know it’s unkind but I’m so glad he went home a day early! I just want one normal Xmas where I’m not looking after any adult!

It's a normal part of life that some Christmases will be amazing and others not so good. Lots of people haven't been well this year and of course there's always family concerns, relationships issues etc that tend to become more prominent at a time when families are encouraged to pile into one house. However, there are also families who manage to pull it together no matter what, and that's encouraging because it can be a goal not t make the mistakes that often take us to certain problems/scenarios in life.
The way to get through it (I think) is to remind ourselves of the good in our lives and to be grateful for all the problems we DON'T have.