Acknowledging gifts

[IndyJones]

I know a very bright 18 year old who never says thank you for gifts from anyone. I really tried this year with something that I hoped might be at least a bit interesting and taken as a sign of respect to their intelligence. No response. It has been like this for many many years.

Is 18 too young to stop making an effort with them?

Is he or she your child?

Not my child. I am in their extended family. This issue has already led several people to stop gift giving.

I think you can stop at 18, especially if they never respond.

It is rude to not thank.
I'd ask if they actually received it, and not give again. Manners cost nothing.

Just stop. We stopped after several years of sending cards and presents that were never acknowledged and never reciprocated, not even on big birthdays or our silver wedding anniversary.

Thankyou

Just stop.

If they are 18 I’d stop now anyway.

If your giving gifts only for praise and acknowledgement you are doing it for entirely the wrong reasons.

I never get the concept of selfish giving, the whole point of giving is to show care, not to expect anything (even adulation) back.

Absolutely ok to stop giving.

@housethatbuiltme well that’s you off my Christmas shopping list 😂

Basic manners is not adulation. My sister called, the kids shouted thank you over the phone. Job done. My niece text saying thanks from us both. Job done. That's all it takes.

@housethatbuiltme , the whole point of thanking is to show care and gratitude.

I don't expect praise but acknowledgement would be nice. How hard is it to send a text?