Christmas on no sleep

[Mumoftwosweetboys]

Staying away this Christmas at a sibling's house. Have been here since 23rd. Both nights have barely slept at all due to husband's awful snoring. I'm absolutely fuming. I hate his snoring so much. At home I'd just go and sleep in living room on sofa but the house I'm staying at is full. Really pisses me off that he's had 2 great nights sleep and here I am still awake having had 2 hours of broken sleep all night. To make matters worse my 1 year old is in a cot in our room. He's slept fine but I'm very aware of him being here. Anyone else have a snoring partner who ruins their sleep?
Christmas is my fav day of the year and I'm fed up I won't get to enjoy it fully now because of the foghorn next to me. 😡

My DH snores badly
I make up for it by getting up at least once a night for a wee!

Have you got any headphones? When I was stuck in hospital for a while on a noisy ward I slept by wearing headphones and playing brown noise into them off the bbc sounds app. I had it fairly loud and it was enough to help me sleep. Also nytol, that helps when I struggle to settle.

Strong coffee ☕ for you this morning and hope as a gift you bought him some anti snoring things 💤we got a white noise player and it really does help to block out the other noises, has he tried anything to prevent snoring?

Have DP get up with the baby and try to get your head down for a bit?

No I don't but may give that a try. My worry is not hearing the baby cry if I use headphones/ ear plugs.
Because it doesn't bother him he doesn't do anything about it which pisses me off even more. I absolutely can't stand him right now but aside from this issue he's a great husband and dad and obvs not his fault. I think I need to put pressure on him to see docs.
He snores the entire night. He's worse when he's lying on back or stomach. Slightly better on his side. Also worse with even just a couple of drinks.
Just so fed up that Christmas is going to be a struggle especially with a 1 year old and 5 year old to keep happy and in someone else's house.

I will defo do that when baby's up. We have a fairly full on day planned with a morning walk to beach and lots of presents to get through. I may need to give the walk a miss as just shattered.
Sorry I sound so miserable but I like my sleep. Would be fine on 5/6 hours but 2 hours 2 days in a row just isn't enough

Honestly, I'd be waking him up at various points in the night, that way you both have a crappy nights sleep.

Also if you can hear it maybe the rest of the house can too and they're not sleeping as well!

That sounds horrendous, no sleep is awful. If it’s worse after a few drinks he really shouldn’t have a drink when you have nowhere to go and sleep elsewhere. Really selfish of him.

Honestly I've woken him up MULTIPLE times and he just rolls straight over and continues sleeping. When he's on his side it's no way as bad but I think I'm so anxious it's going to get loud again that it stops me sleeping and as I say, feel v conscious of baby being in the room.

Exactly. He didn't have any drinks last night but did the night before. Tbf to him he barely ever drinks.

I think I'm quite sensitive to noise and because I'm pissed off with him it's making it harder to try and relax.

The baby has slept through it all thankfully. That was my main worry that he'd wake up.

So sorry op.
He needs to be checked for sleep apnoea as that’s associated with loud snoring and while he’s at the doctors he can ask what he can do about the snoring.
Meanwhile, get a few strong coffees and hopefully a post dinner nap!

Lying next to my own foghorn right now. It makes my life a misery. If I don't get to sleep before him, I don't sleep. I know it won't help now, but I bought foam ear plugs from Amazon after a particularly horrific experience on holiday. Holidays are worse for me, there's no escape. It's come to the point where I genuinely consider forming out for extra rooms.
You genuinely have my sympathy because there is nothing worse than sleep deprivation.

Yep I do think he needs to get it checked for his own health as well as my sanity!

Thank you.

I'm lucky I have two good sleepers. You'd think it'd be the baby keeping me awake.

I'm only 37 so have a long road ahead with all this.

We both snore so both use ear plugs. But I can still hear my alarm etc even when it's quiet, so I'd still have heard a baby particularly in my room.

I wear ear plugs as my DH snores too and it's never stopped me hearing my DS cry out - just to let you know. It doesn't block out all noise just dulls the snoring enough for me to get to sleep. If DS cries in the night we still tend to both hear him at the same time.

OK good to know guess I should give that a try.

I honestly feel I hate him right now. I don't normally!

Many a Christmas ruined by my DH snoring when we've had to share a bed. We have a holiday coming up and I'm dreading sharing a room with him.

He sleeps permanently on a sofa in our house, he moans and huffs about it but tbh I'm past caring as he won't see the Gp about his snoring and when he drinks it's worse but he refuses to ease up on the pints so it's basically his own doing that he's on the sofa.

If he didn't snore he could be in the big lovely king size right now.

I wake about this time anyhow and hope you've managed to nod off.

Yes that's only fair. If he won't do anything about it then he should sleep on the sofa. My husband whinges when I wake him up but I honestly don't care he's getting way more sleep than me.

Sadly not managed to sleep. The kids will be up any minute now and I want to enjoy every second with them opening their pressies. Will have to put brave mum face on now when all i want to do is cry from tiredness and frustration.

Op you must give the walk a mid and go back to bed. You’ll have such a shit day otherwise and you’ll properly relax once everyone is out!

I'm wondering if you've looked at sleep apnea? My husband used to snore SO badly went to the doctor's turned out he had quite bad sleep apnea.

Yea I think that's exactly what I need to do. Thanks x

Is there anything that can be done for sleep apnea?

I absolutely refuse to tolerate snoring and I also refuse to entertain indulgences about sleep apnoea, GP visits or pretending it’s his health I’m concerned for when the problem is just a symptom of a lack of self-restraint. If he wants to share a bed with his wife and not get woken up he can stop eating and drinking too much. Mine lost the extra weight and the improvement was amazing. He still does it if he drinks but I’ll quite happily wake him every two minutes if he’s disturbing me so he’s learned not to move from his left hand side where it’s tolerable.

I do also think it's weight related. He didn't snore for the first few years of our relationship when he was really slim. He's by no means "fat" now but definitely carrying extra weight so must be something related.