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Fighting with OH at Xmas, feeling alone

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Catchingrainbows · 24/12/2023 18:19

Me and OH have been having an argument or 2 at least once each week as of lately and this is because I find him so difficult to live with or to even know how to be with around him.

He is a massive control freak and everything I do around the house is either not right, not enough or not his way.

I also find he is really unsociable too, he doesn’t ever want to do anything with our friends and family and if I do manage to it’s a struggle to get him there. Granted, he has a good time when we end up together.

I have got to a point where I am soo cautious about saying things to him as he’ll take it the wrong way, and this could just be general conversational things.

I am not a great cook but have really come along since having our LB who is 2.5 yrs old now. So today he has being prepping a lot of the Christmas dinner and I have tried to help. But I just feel a spare part.

We have had a big argument this afternoon because I did not agree with something he said to his Grandfather today and told him in the car on the way home, he flipped his lid at me. Told me not to talk to him and that at the moment he is contemplating our relationship. Told me to go to my Mothers, tell them they are not coming round tomorrow for Christmas. Etc etc

I don’t want to “grovel” to him, I am giving him space but I want to make this evening special for our LB.

I’ve come here to vent as such more than anything :(

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isitharassment · 25/12/2023 00:47

Tell your parents you’re having Christmas somewhere else/at theirs. Go without your DP so he can’t ruin Christmas for you and your son

WhatTheFuk · 25/12/2023 04:29

He's checked out already. Hence the arguments, snapping at you over nothing, and telling you he's contemplating the relationship.

Take control, you will be much happier and more able to create the Christmases and general home environment you want for your child without him.

Go to your Mum's tomorrow. Be honest with her and try to have a lovely day.

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