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Dreading Christmas

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Pandermonium · 16/12/2023 18:05

This year has been a really tough one, after spending 10 months being hounded, harassed and stalked by my mother due to cutting contact due to her abusive behaviour towards my children, we have now moved 300 miles away.

We are now closer to my husbands family and he is really excited to finally be able to spend Christmas day with them. It will be the first time in 16 years so I can understand why he is looking forward to it.

But I'm dreading it, honestly I'm feeling a bit lost. Living in a new area where I know nobody, no friends, no family and basically it's like both my parents are now dead.

I hardly know his family, as we've only seen them once a year for maybe half the time we've been together, they are really nice kind people, so this is definitely my own issue, not due to them.

I've got severe depression and awful anxiety, which I've no doubt is making me blow this out of proportion. (I do Start therapy this week).

2 of our children are very excited to spend the holidays with them, 1 (is autistic) is struggling with it as it is making him feel anxious and overwhelmed.

Do I just grin and bare it? Let my husband and girls go, staying behind with our son? Or any other ideas would be hugely appreciated!

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tsmainsqueeze · 16/12/2023 18:32

Does your mil know about your mother ?
If she does why don't you tell her how you are feeling, you say they are nice kind people ,if this were my dil my heart would go out to her and i would try to make things as easy as possible for her , Christmas day and beyond.

Mummyratbag · 16/12/2023 18:36

So sorry to read about your year. All I can say is be gentle with yourself, do the minimum you can get away with, keep things lowkey with low expectations. Short visits to inlaws? Lots of self care and know that this is a low point and that future Christmases will hopefully be easier.

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