Quiet December

[LadyDaisy42]

Anyone else having a quiet month with no social engagements? I've literally no plans, no party nights, nothing. I do work but my team generally don't get on well enough to want to do something socially outside of work. And obviously I have friends but they are all busy with their own works nights out, other plans etc. My social media is full of people posting from nights out, lunches etc. On the one hand I'm perfectly happy to stock up on party food and Prosecco and cosy up in front of the tv every night without the hassle of trying to get home from somewhere. But on the other hand, there's definitely a bit of FOMO seeing everyone else out having fun.

I am self employed and don’t have many friends, and not much family so I’ve nothing to go to. Been this way for over a decade.

I don’t get jealous though. But I don’t use social media too much. Sometimes I’d like to have a nice excuse to buy and wear a party dress but then I think about the reality that it entails from start to finish, and I am glad because I really can’t be bothered 😆

Me! Skipped the work Christmas do (which I was glad about when I heard the stories afterwards 👀), and I was ill on my birthday so had to cancel plans. So the highlight of my month will be the Strictly final tonight. I definitely have JOMO (joy of missing out!).

My December is distinctly quiet. The combination of a long virus hangover and domestic doom have left me feeling deeply unsociable and antipathetic towards my occupation - so for several months I’ve dropped out of every possible loop.

I do feel a bit sorry for all the Autumn / Winter clothes I’d gathered - they’re looking at me reproachfully …

But I don’t mind the peace and quiet at all. Pre-illness I’d had more than sufficient work-related events and had pretty much run out of social energy anyway. Amongst my family I’m usually the most likely to organise Christmas activities: theatre trips, concerts, carol services, etc, so they probably have noticed the absence of those. This year my only activity has been ordering and wrapping presents and making a cake. I’m hoping that will be enough, and I’ll be on better form next year.

I’d advise a break from social media, @LadyDaisy42. It might be a wrench but it isn’t doing you any good right now. Concentrate on nurturing your own individual well being - however you want to do that.

I always like the idea of Christmas parties and social events, but when it comes down to it I always regret making plans and prefer to stay in with some nice food and booze and a book or TV.