I want another Christmas my way!!

[OneMoreMyWay]

I was brought up with a standard British Christmas. DH was not. We have always done Christmas my way because I have always been the one who organises the gifts, tree, shopping etc. DH literally has just signed his name on the gift tag and gifts have been as much as surprise to the Dc as to him.

DC2 has figured Santa this year. DC1 (with SN) we are not sure about although he does know about Nikolaustag.

I came back from the shopping today and told DH I had everything, just needed the last two parcels and Santa is organised. He immediately said we should "stop this nonsense and open gifts in the 24th this year." He then said we needed to stop lying to the Dc. I pointed out DC2 already knows, still wrote letter to Santa etc and he answered they are old enough now to stop.

Am I totally wrong here? I have organised everything for this year already. He doesn't get to change how we do Christmas this close Christmas, does he? Won't that's totally upset the DC?

Do I have to let him have next year?

Edit to add: DC1 is 14 so we've had a fair few years "my way".

What a dickhead

Let the kids decide, it's more for them anyway.

We do Christmas on the 24th as that is my tradition and Christmas and boxing days are just normal days for me. If it meant a lot for my DH I would happily split it, but he would have had to organise it. DH has always been easy going and prefers the 24th too now. Your DH doesn’t sound nice at all OP

Oh NM sorry, saw the last comment. He definitely ruined it for them, how sad! No real reason for it either!

He's ruined it for them because he felt like it. He doesn't see the point in Christmas so doesn't see why anyone else should get any pleasure. No bairn should be upset when opening gifts.

I think I would have a chat with him saying that he can have his way next year but he does all the organisation for it. He'll probably change his tune.

I think today I'd send him to his parents so he can sulk there and just spend some time with the bairns.

Has he actually articulated what he actually wants? He seems to have a picture in his head he hasn't shared. He doesn't get to spoil it for others though

Oh dare OP I hope all is well in your home.

We are a household with 2 different traditions... just like yours.

Also, your DC seem to be at an age where they don't believe in Santa anymore!
You need to have a chat in October/ November about how to do Christmas 2024 - and introduce more grown up traditions! You may also find that because you have always organised presents ect your husband does not want to step on your toes , so to speak- time to involve him from day one!! (You know, you should have done this years ago!!)

We did this year first time Midnight mass (Something I grew up with) and for the last few years we have done cooking together- anything from pizza to a fully blown roast!! Again, something I grew up with.

Presents are now on 24th and Santa will always bring stockings with some special treats for everyone! Teen DC organise ours ...

Have a lovely Christmas 🎅

😵‍💫 what an embarrassing stupid auto correct!!

Should read Oh dear OP ..

Has he actually articulated what he actually wants?
No. Nor did he explain to the kids when he told them to open their gifts that that is his tradition. He hasn't explained anything about "his way" either yesterday or in the run up. Just confused them when effectively telling them off for now wanting to open their gifts (in their view) early.