For context, my older sister stopped talking to myself and my mum 5 years ago after a big family bust up and emotions ran high. Fast forward to Nov 2023 and we meet again at a funeral and all start talking again as if nothing has happened. Also for context, last christmas, my mum was in hospital, had surgery on xmas day and spent time in intensive care. It was a worrying time for me and my dad who were the only ones at her bedside everyday and shared a sandwich on xmas day - no one in the rest of the family came to see my mum as apparently we live too far away apart from my younger sister who had a newborn at this point. no one invited me and dad round for xmas either. FYI - estranged sister sent a text to mum hoping she felt better which was more than a lot of folks in my family did. Now this xmas, i really wanted to make up for us having a rubbish xmas last year, my mum is better and i have my6 yo son for xmas this year too. I plan to host for parents, younger sister, her DP and two little ones. My mum asked me to invite a cousin, his DP and 18yo old son over for xmas which I agreed too. Now she wants me to also invite estranged older sister, her partner and her 22 year old son too. So i have gone from having 3 extra adults to 6 to cook for, im bitter from last year and keep harping on about 'where was everyone in our time of need' and i have my son too so dont want to spend the whole day in the kitchen as is the usual for me as everyone before last year expects me to cook. After what happened last xmas I am kind of done being the yes person. I have suggested to my mum that she host my sister at hers and we can see her on boxing day but she thinks im being unreasonable and tearing everyone apart. Advice pls!