What's fairest in this situation?

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As part of DS (12) Christmas present we have bought tickets to Harry Potter studios. DD (7) is not hugely into HP but we have booked tickets for all of us, her included as it seemed mean not to include her.

As part of the trip (we live far away) we will be staying in a hotel for 2 nights and doing an activity she enjoys on the next day (but not as huge as going to HP studios)

I will be buying DS one of those golden tickets to unwrap for Christmas Day. In this situation, would you also get DD a golden ticket- even though the present isn't really "for her" or would you not? But then she might think she isn't coming too.. not sure what do for the best.

TIA

Is she getting additional gifts on top of DS?

I do think it's a bit unbalanced that she will get the full experience of DS gift plus her own if that's the case but it's a tricky one

I think ds needs extra gifts to balance it more fairly. Your dd is getting the full benefit of her brother's gift, as well as her own.

I think you could put on the ticket,
You and your family will attend etc so their is no confusion
I think it would be unfair to give her a ticket as her gift if it isn't actually what she wants, and have her open a gift that she has asked for her, or that she will love.

Can you make her a ticket for the other day activity?

I think that depends on whether she’s getting an equivalent “wow” present to her brother

Thanks for the input! Yes, definitely getting a wow present- Barbie Dreamhouse 🙈
as she's still into "toys" whereas DS is not.

It's a tricky one!

In which case I don’t think she should get her own ticket - I like the earlier suggestion of his ticket mentioning the whole family. I might also include some spending money / a “voucher” for the HP shop as part of your son’s gift, assuming budget permits, just to make it a bit fairer between them.

I don't think it matters if she gets a ticket or not, she is still getting DB gift as well as her own + an extra (doing something on the holiday for her).

Its really NOT a gift for DS, you have made it a family holiday.

Agree.

I have to mostly agree that although your DD isn’t into Harry Potter she’s probably still going to get there and love the day and be just as wowed as your son. I’ve taken younger relatives who didn’t know all the books and films and stuff and still loved it! So in that sense you could argue she’s getting a WOW present (barbie dream house) and then a family holiday too Inc a day aimed at her. Whereas your son is getting only a family holiday and the experience, but neither of those things are WOW there and then on the day, in the same way your daughters actual gift is?

Having said that he’s older than her and possibly won’t even care about who gets what or see it that way, that’s simply me breaking down the question you raised of how “fair” it was.

I agree, the more you strive to make it fair the less it will feel like DS's main present. Is a ticket the same level as the Barbie present? It definitely feels like a present for everyone to me.

Yes I think DS needs an extra-maybe some HP themed merch or voucher for gift shop. Clothes to wear on the day?