If you don’t like your present …..

[thisfilmisboring]

Do you tell your other half?

Mastering the art of giving feedback on gifts should be a core school subject (God knows I wasted enough time learning trigonometry I was never going to use).

DH still thinks I love guylian praline shells because I was dumb enough to pretend the first time.

He has hit the mark a few of times, and it’s a lovely feeling. But since we’ve both run out of imagination and started asking for suggestions, the quality of gifts has improved dramatically.

We have a budget and will buy our own main gifts out of the budget and leave some budget for a surprise.

I dont think I could tell my dh I dislike something as I feel rude.

Depends on the level of 'not liking it'.

If it was well meaning but a little off then no not really, if it was an offensive lazy stinker with no thought then yes.

I think theres only been twice (out of 16 years) where I was actually mad (but one was a big birthday not Xmas).

Like DH once bought me an item of clothing, he genuinely thinks its nice (wears similar himself) and it had extra elements of what I do like in it... but its impractical and an frankly an awful colour. Never had the heart to tell him though as he thinks its awesome and he clearly did try and get something with thought of me in mind using what he thinks is 'nice'.

Once when pregnant he bought me excersize equipment that I had expressed no desire for and was actually no use to me... I didn't not hide my annoyance that year (probably fueled by the fact someone else also bought me a unasked for subscription to slimfast as well). To add to that I wasn't even obese I was 5 foot 8 and 10 stone while PREGNANT, I only put on 1 stone and never complained about it. It was the double whammy of inwanted/unsuitable and insulting.

A month or two later. Yes.

I have various skin problems that have placed me under consultant-led care at various points, and absolutely cannot do any skin products other than the very limited range I currently use.

My DH bought me a Neal's Yard expectant mum skincare kit (for preventing stretch marks etc...) for my birthday, eight weeks after I had given birth one year. £50 chuffing quid when we had very little money.

I had to come clean with him, and explain why, before I sold it on ebay.

Yes. He finds it amusing now. I usually give to my Dd or take back and choose something myself! He often gets lovely gifts though, and also often asks me to send links so it's usually the ' filler' gifts that bomb...

Dh only got it wrong once. He goes out the week before Xmas with some money and comes back with a few surprises. The only one I’ve really not liked was a pair of hideous trainers 😂I felt so bad but I could not wear them. They were like high tops style which he wears but I don’t. They were really heavy and clunky.

The same year he bought me a kindle and I was like hmm ok. I used my phone in the bath to read books so he bought me it with that in mind. I thought ok then I’ll give it a go. Loved it! Loved having my hot bubble baths with a coffee, chocolates and my kindle reading my books. Good choice in the end.

For Xmas I usually buy about 5 small gifts of my own then he gets a few surprises so I do get some things I like.

@housethatbuiltme
subscription to slimfast 😳how rude and insulting is that?! How could anyone have the bare faced cheek to give that!

@BellaTheDarkOverlord
yeh, we do similar. Give each other some ideas then have a few little surprises.
It feels so mean to say I don’t like something but when it’s something you need to wear it’s hard!!

@thisfilmisboring It’s hard yes! I never told him, I thanked him but never wore them. He guessed after a couple of years they lived in the box. We laugh about it now 😂I give him ideas now but I’m relatively easy to please if it’s chocolate or cute stationary.