How to spend first Xmas as a family

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My DC will be 6 months old so will have no idea what Xmas is. Not sure how to spend the day, options are:

1. We spend the day at home just us 3, make dinner, watch TV, open presents and just chill with baby.
2. We go to my MIL's. For context MIL is a lovely kind woman whom normally works every single Xmas but is able to get it off this year. This is her first grandchild so feel she would love to spend it with them and she has asked what our plans are.
3. My own mother's, 3 siblings would already be there and is not her first grandchild. But I do love Xmas with my siblings, is always a good laugh.
4. We invite partners dad to our house (he came to us last year).

I'm really torn, have asked partners input and he says he's not fussed (big help!).

Curious what others would choose?

Have a lovely morning the three of you, open your presents, nice breakfast and then pictures of course! Sounds like it'd be nice to include your MIL this year.

Fwiw in 2020 I had a 3 month old and the day didn't liven up until we had family over ( had a baby under 1 so were allowed a "support bubble"!).

In 2021 DD was only 1 and we had covid so spent it alone. Again, very quiet and quite sad and has just had a family bereavement too.

In 2022 we had a week old baby at Christmas so I wasn't that interested in it, being under nappies and cluster feeding but did for DD obviously.

Point being, go and enjoy the family, play games, eat and have fun and enjoy your new family baby!

Do not set yourself up for a rotation that you will then be held to for decades would be my advice.

Plan this year and that is it.

Might be nice to hang out with MIL if she normally works.

Personally I'd do your own home.

Invite mil and have your mother and siblings pop in at some point in the day or boxing day so you can spend time with them too.
Keep it low key /low effort.

We had my mil/bil/DM for Christmas last year.
DH was compensating for COVID xmases so there were elaborate food plans
Bil is in his 20s & lives abroad hadnt met DD.
Mil seems to have no memory of what babies are like. She wants posed photos to show off DD (these sessions took up 2 HOURS on Xmas day) and to wave things in her face . There was lots of hands/toys etc waved in babies face and overstimulation so poor DD spent 72 hours looking dazed and confused 😂
there was also gift overload and annoyance DD wasn't more excited 😆

so yeah keep it low key.