Mamas I need your help! long post ahead.
Every year I go to my exes family for Christmas. we're very close we never had children together, although I had a daughter before I met him and now a nearly one year old. It works well when we go even with the new baby last year. I'm very much apart of their family. However this year they may possibly be going to another household for Christmas. I've been invited but my ex says he's not going( he's not keen on the family member) and neither am I really and I wouldn't go get there without him as I don't drive. Therefore I might have to have Christmas at home with my 2 children. I don't really mind however how on earth do I do Christmas with a one year old. she demands my time from the moment I wake up, we co sleep with naps from 11 till 1. we have a kind of set routine... and this will really put a dampener on things for my 16 year old daughter. we love Christmas it's always magical and perfect but I'm really worried that if I have to have it just us 3 it won't feel like Christmas. my ex will probably go to a friends he's not sure, I'd want him to come to me for my older daughters sake as he's like a father to her. my babies father would come but I'm not keen on the idea. I've suggested he takes her which would make life easier for me and my older daughter but he's rubbish at planning and he's never managed to help once with getting her to sleep so I doubt he'll have her.
If we are home I plan to go to church on Xmas day, I just prey it's not around the time the baby sleeps as she doesn't Sleep in buggy... my family are in London and I don't like spending Christmas them. very unorganised... I only got this news yesterday and I'm worried about letting my older daughter down.
I knew I would one day have to deal with a baby at Christmas but had always hoped there would be lots of people around who could help make it special for my older daughter while I'm distracted.... Do you have any ideas for how I can plan my first Xmas day just the 3 of us if need be. tia xx