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OhFortheLoveOv · 22/07/2023 08:11

I tallied our total Christmas spend last year! It feels obscene!! £ 2,450 or thereabouts.
Talking to friends and family they don’t seem shocked or concerned by this amount, saying their Christmas spend is similar or even more.
For me it has been eye opener. I know we spend a lot over Christmas but in the cold light of summer such excess seems outlandish, particularly when we have just got back from a lovely trip away that cost less than what one day last cost!

We were thinking of going away this year over festivities but now looking at how excessive it all seems I am on verge of giving Christmas a hard pass!
Am I crazy to be thinking this way ?

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ITSSSSCHRISTMASSS · 31/07/2023 00:53

I remember one year making the mistake of adding up what I spent on just our 2 dds presents, they were 4 & 2 at the time, 7 years on and I still feel sick. I’m far more frugal and savvier at shopping than I was then.

We don’t add up everything but I do keep track of gift buying to make sure we don’t go mad. We don’t have an extravagant lifestyle rarely go out or do big holidays so as long as we can afford it, bills are paid we’re not getting into debt then we tend to go with the Christmas flow and enjoy the whole season.

Ampharos · 14/08/2023 01:07

We always have a “nice” Christmas but don’t spend as much as you do.

We keep costs down by:

  • picking one “pricy” Christmas activity in December (for us we usually spend this on seeing Santa but the place we go is an outdoor Museum so we can spend several hours there and make a proper day of it). Any other activities are much much cheaper. Also lots of craft activities, baking with kids etc. Can get the materials really cheap at shops like Home Bargains/The Range/Asda but can easily fill a few hours each day.
  • we get vouchers from our work as part of our Christmas bonus for a food retailer so all of our Christmas food, excluding alcohol, is covered (but you can do similar with keeping points all year etc)
  • only buying gifts for close family. So me, DP, kids, my parents and then partner does the same
  • savvy shopping for gifts. I always keep an eye on the prices of toys from August and pick anything up if it’s on a good offer and I always check several retailers for each item. Black Friday is great for adult presents I think. Clothes, perfumes, etc. I also routinely search for discount codes/newsletter sign up discounts etc. Theres lots of decent threads on here for that, too. That being said, it’s about balance.
  • Don’t really do Christmas cards anymore except for close family and a few friends

I don’t have to worry about Christmas Do’s as ours is always after Christmas anyway so that’s a January/February problem.

However, the main thing that has helped us over Christmas is the fact we communicate with each other about what we actually would like for Christmas. I know a lot of people don’t like this and prefer a surprise, but I’d much rather buy my mum, for example, something she wants and was going to buy anyway rather than guess and miss. It saves everyone time, effort and money. Eg if my mum asked me what I’d like and I said our air fryer was a bit dodgy so perhaps a contribution to that, that’s money I wouldn’t have to spend on it a month later.

I also stick to a budget. I work out what I’m spending on x person and I’ll do my best not to go over. Having a budget for everything (presents, activities, clothing etc) means I don’t end up in a situation where I’m shocked by what I’ve spent. I’m completely in control. I do always buy the kids presents first, though, just Incase something comes up like say, the boiler breaking. DP, myself, parents etc can easily forgo gifts to pay for a repair but it would be harder on the kids. So I prioritise them first then at least it something does go wrong, it’s fine.

Oh and one last thing, Advent calendars! I bought the kids fancy ones for a few years but genuinely they prefer the basic chocolate ones. Can buy one for £3-5 max or spend more on a reusable one/make one then just buy chocolate at a quid or so to top it up the rest of the year. Same with selection boxes- the small cheap Cadbury ones go down just as well as the fancier ones.

lastseasonstop · 14/08/2023 07:15

Oh I’d hate to think how much we spend.

I am trying this year to break it down a bit and start now with presents. Thankfully, we don’t need many. Granny, Cousin, niece and nephew then just DH and DS. That said, DS is getting a new X box so that the best part of £500 already.

The big spend for us is food. I do go all out food wise. I get so sucked in with advertising but last year I did out notes on my phone with what we did and didn’t eat - note to self, you don’t need that much chocolate or cheese.

Hibernatalie · 23/08/2023 20:32

We easily do that each year, although I've never added it up. I love Christmas and am quite mindful over the gifts I buy, I look forward to the events all year and the food is the best bit for me. No regrets tbh.

Incywincydidntknowwhattodo · 24/08/2023 13:13

I've never added it up, but based on your figure, for my family, that would be an average of £272 on each person. Now presumabley that includes food, days out, activities, decor and presents? If so, I probably spend far more. That wouldn't even cover the cost of one of the Lego sets my eldest is hoping for, and the coat my husband had last year was £400.

Heyjude78 · 21/12/2023 00:24

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MulledWineBeMine · 21/12/2023 01:11

JusthereforXmas · 23/07/2023 15:49

We spend about £700 (across the month of xmas not including standard things like rent, bills or 'normal weekly food'), I don't really know how people spend so much more.

Thats 3x £150 on the kids, £75 on DH, £40 on other family (tiny family) £40 on the annual pantomime, £0 for the free annual Santa at the galley & that leaves £95 for food and other little bits we need.

Maybe its because we are veggie and don't spend £200+ on a butcher and we have a reusable tree/decor so no going to buy one and don't do expensive lapland train rides and stuff etc... but it still seems insane to me that people can spend so much.

@JusthereforXmas

Your thinking makes NO sense. Can you not see that people have more children, more extended family they buy for, buy more expensive gifts for their DH/DW??

panto - here £40 gets you one adult ticket. Should no one else go because they can't get tickets for all the family for £40?

it's not because you're so clever, it's because you have a small family & don't spend a lot on presents. Which is fine if that's what you prefer, but if other people have the money & want to do these things, that's fine too. Other people spend less than you, would you like them to tell you that they think your budget is insane??

MulledWineBeMine · 21/12/2023 01:14

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@Heyjude78

I don't understand your comment?

what does how much she spends on her FS have to do with how much she spends on her GC?

would you think the same if he wasn't fostered?

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 21/12/2023 01:34

MulledWineBeMine · 21/12/2023 01:14

@Heyjude78

I don't understand your comment?

what does how much she spends on her FS have to do with how much she spends on her GC?

would you think the same if he wasn't fostered?

Ignore,they're trolling.

MulledWineBeMine · 21/12/2023 19:04

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 21/12/2023 01:34

Ignore,they're trolling.

@MrsPelligrinoPetrichor

i expect you're right!

bloody nonsensical nonsense.

maybe Santa could deliver presents & take the trolls away...

Mischance · 21/12/2023 19:08

£50 for each family member = £650
My contribution to Christmas celebrations = making the puddings and the cake - ingredients at most c. £20
Annual charity contribution to Crisis at Christmas = £150

Total = £820.

More than enough I would think.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 21/12/2023 19:43

MulledWineBeMine · 21/12/2023 19:04

@MrsPelligrinoPetrichor

i expect you're right!

bloody nonsensical nonsense.

maybe Santa could deliver presents & take the trolls away...

Got banned for absolutely foul sexual comments on another thread.

Lisa221987 · 21/12/2023 19:52

Oh gosh.. I've spent Double that..... thats before we have even started on food shopping... 2 adults 4 kids.

Christmas is obscene, but I love spending and giving presents... and receiving

dothehokeycokey · 21/12/2023 20:52

Xmas day dinner out with for the family

£600 plus tip/drinks

Gifts for dc and dil/sil family and dh £1500

Food shop £250

Xmas show £125

New lights £50

In between Xmas coffees and sales around £300

Nearly £4000 ConfusedConfusedConfused

MulledWineBeMine · 21/12/2023 20:58

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 21/12/2023 19:43

Got banned for absolutely foul sexual comments on another thread.

How can I be on here FARRRR too much & still miss all the interesting stuff?!?!!

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