Sad that Christmas won't be the same

[Catterpillarwithconverse]

Had a really nice day yesterday, with my two kids, STBX, brother and friend. I chose and wrapped presents, I ordered the food. STBX did all the cooking. It worked really well.

This will probs be our last Xmas together as we plan to sell the house next year.

I just can't see how i would be able to host without my DH. I wouldn't be able to cook and keep the kids entertained. My brother and friend definitely wouldn't host for many reasons...space and don't really cook.

There's no other family.

I wish I could have been a bit more present yesterday but it was on my mind that this would be the last one.

STBX has gone out for the evening so I'm just dwelling on it all now.

Just looking for support really. Thanks.

are you remaining amicable and friends? Are you splitting because you’ve just fallen out of love etc, or is there something more?
if it’s an amicable, friendly split - there’s no reason why you can’t host together next year, especially if you have children together. It will be different, but easier to do it together then split the day up.
alternatively, if you can’t do that, then think of other traditions you can begin. I’m not a cook either and if it was down to me, I would pay to go out for dinner. It’s usually about £50 per head on Christmas Day and chain pubs/restaurants

Yes it's amiable. He can't be intimate with me. I could put up with that as I still love him and I think it would be best for the children if we remained together. But he thinks it's best for us to end it between us and I have to accept that. I'm trying to look forward to one day having a full relationship with someone else.

I would love for us to still do Christmas' together but I have a feeling that he will get into a relationship quickly once we have actually split and so I can't imagine how that would work. My parents are still together and I've not really seen a good example of people co-parenting.

I've spent 6 out of the last 8 Christmases with my ex and his partner for most if not all of the day. Plus a couple of my boyfriends in that time thrown in for good measure.

This year me and his partner did all the cooking together. It can be done.

@adhdpunchbag that sounds great that you've managed it. I can't imagine being OK around his new partner. I hope that I would be able to do it. I notice your user name... I have RSD so I think it would trigger that.