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What will you do different next Christmas?

147 replies

MsMiaWallace · 26/12/2022 18:07

Mine would be a different venue for Christmas Eve dinner.
We went for carvery this year & the place was scruffy!

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Dancingqueen90 · 27/12/2022 09:35

I agree with the previous poster about not hosting as much. We should have done this year Christmas day, boxing day, 27th & NY day plus guests. I have canx one and being vague on another as I haven't enjoyed it at all. I don't get to spend time with my own immediate family. The lead up to Christmas was hectic and a bit too much. Should have taken a few days off.

I have been abroad before but didn't feel right.

Definitely won't repeat this year antics!

bert3400 · 27/12/2022 09:36

Spent a fortune going out for Christmas dinner and it was a disaster. Currently in discussions with the venue as so many things went wrong. Will be cooking next year ourselves.

TiredButDancing · 27/12/2022 09:37

When dhs family ask what they can bring I am not going to say "nothing". I fully appreciate this is some sort of miscommunication issue and mostly my fault but I was a little surprised that none of them turned up with even a token "thank you" type contribution. I said "nothing" in that I didn't need them to contribute to the food or cooking. But I would never go for a big Christmas meal without taking something for the hosts - flowers, wine, chocolate etc.

Hobbesmanc · 27/12/2022 09:38

I think after many years, this year worked out quite well. Although the way work roster fell I did have more time off. I very rarely have Xmas Eve off but did this year which really helped.

This year we didn't do a big m and s order and just picked up stuff leading up to the big event. Also didn't spend a fortune on artisan cheese. So much used to be wasted. No one ever really wants the cheeseboard on the main days

Buy more white wine and stop buying those flavoured Baileys every year. That's my plan.

Xtraincome · 27/12/2022 09:48

Hold a family gathering at the start of December (2nd week latest) so we aren't seeing too many people over our time off together. Just started my first FT job since before having kids so I want to switch off more next year and have nothing booked between Xmas and New Year. I want to wing it and book some stuff just for our family: Panto, Harry P Studios etc

vg101 · 27/12/2022 09:54

Probably tell my various extended family to not buy stuff for 9yr DD, she's very ungirly and there's so much tat she's not interested in, just seems a waste.

Pandagirl71 · 27/12/2022 10:01

I have been ill since Christmas Day. I would like my DCs and DGC to elsewhere for thei xmas dayr and come to me on Boxing Day / day after that. I seem to be ill every Christmas( one of my DgC lives with me and DD and I have had months of broken sleep) If i had my way I would not celebrate at all but apparently that's not an option!

LittleMy77 · 27/12/2022 10:11

Not do;

  • stash presents for DS too far in advance as his tastes changed in space of less than 3 months.
  • work right up until the last minute
  • make own dessert
  • buy quality street; am only person in house who eats it and I finished the lot

start / continue

  • take time off between Christmas and new year
  • Do all veg prep day or week before, saved us so much time!
  • not cook turkey, too stressful and too much time spent in the kitchen
Toomanysquishmallows · 27/12/2022 10:57

I won’t bother with magazines on Christmas Eve , both dc ignored them.

Boysnme · 27/12/2022 11:08

Either stay at home or go away for the week.

i have finally decided that I need to stop pandering to others and do what I want for once.

AnyRandomName · 27/12/2022 11:10

Not do:

  • spend two days with creepy BIL, shudder at finding him standing in my bedroom whilst I was half naked
  • trust my family to get me decent gifts, I shall ask for vouchers
  • trust my DH to get me a decent gift, I shall suggest we buy ourselves
  • rescue DH when he didn't buy gifts for FIL and creepy brother
  • eat the same bloody food for 4 meals in a row (MIL agh)

Do:

  • one gift for the kids on Xmas eve
  • lean on gifts for the kids, they don't need much
  • soup on Boxing Day for veggie intake
Pasithean · 27/12/2022 11:20

Accept that my family will not contact me or answer their phones on Christmas Day. Or any other day.

MrGruber · 27/12/2022 11:24

FlowersPasithean

MrsPutnamNaomiDarling · 27/12/2022 11:29

Go abroad. I'm done with it.

VioletLemon · 27/12/2022 11:38

I'm sorry, fully sympathise it's so difficult when one won't see the level of care needed cannot be provided by them, at home. We had same a couple of years ago. It didn't end well as one parent thought they knew everything, didn't need help etc but the other was in a coma and dying. Fortunately we got them to hospital and end of life care was given. It was the absolute beginning of the end of that relationship. Care is such a skill. Sending good thoughts for you. 💐

Georgyporky · 27/12/2022 12:13

Considering booking the same hotel abroad as this year.

PauliesWalnuts · 27/12/2022 12:24

Go away. I don’t have family (we don’t do longevity) - am kind of tired of being the spare wheel at someone else’s place since I was 25. It’s really hard watching from the periphery as a (well-meaning) host family has fun when all I’m doing is missing mine. This year was particularly awful.
Also made the decision to work up to Xmas Eve - taking those four days before off work meant far too much time to brood and fall into a pit of bereavement.

ChaliceinWonderland · 27/12/2022 12:25

Agree with the 'away' option. WE will book a flight out on boxing day next year. Xmas was shit this year, everyone was ill and I was alone with the teens ( Single parent) and nobody helped.

CaptainMerica · 27/12/2022 12:34

Luckily, we had no disasters or rude guests, so won't be doing anything too different.

The main thing is that due to dates, we will be off school and work on the 23rd next year, which will make a big difference. Everything was too rushed on the 24th this year.

I will need to rethink the xmas activities, as it became clear my 8yo has twigged, and didn't enjoy seeing Santa very much. I don't want my 5yo to miss out though, so that will be a bit tricky.

omill001 · 27/12/2022 12:54

This year was a success so will employ similar tactics next year i.e

  1. prep all I can Christmas Eve, so no having to peel and chop anything on Xmas morning when I'm sleep deprived and just want to crawl under a duvet
  1. Have a small Christmas and do in our own way and at our own pace.
  1. Minimal alcohol...people can be a pain in arse when drunk
  1. Not get too stressed out about doing things a certain way, there are no laws and rules, Christmas can be whatever way you want it to be... don't like Turkey? Fine! Have any bird or joint takes your fancy
longtompot · 27/12/2022 12:59

Put the meat in the oven whilst we open presents. Properly covered it keeps warm for ages.

That and not get covid and pass it on to my dh and two dds (ds hasn't come down with it so far toucheswood )

Julie9865455 · 27/12/2022 13:04

The main thing that will be different next year is I won't be on a diet! Low calorie Christmas dinner wasn't as bad as I thought but it was a shame not to join in with the others (I have an operation coming up and I'm a stone overweight so just doing what I can to minimise risk!). Also I won't have an operation looming next year.

I bought fewer presents for everyone and reset budgets/expectations. That will continue. I only put the tree up and forewent all the other Christmas decorations - that will continue. I didn't do advent calendars... Not sure about that one. I did miss them a bit! Simple Christmas Eve watching a movie with the family - that will continue!

I slept till 8am on Christmas day - That will hopefully continue!

I had a good Christmas that was fairly simple but the most relaxing I have had in years! (No alcohol either - I don't think that will continue though!)

Wishihadanalgorithm · 27/12/2022 13:28

Not hosting Christmas Day for anyone. Having a lovely low key day - just the three of us (and ddog) which is relaxed. This means we can enjoy the run up rather than making endless lists, shopping, cleaning and ultimately being a servant to others.

Thegingerpig · 27/12/2022 13:55

Not catch Covid!

SmudgeButt · 27/12/2022 13:59

Have the Christmas dinner I want, not the one the OH cooks. He's a great cook but I can't remember if we have ever had a dinner like I had as a child in our entire marriage.

So before dinner there has to be meatballs. Not smoked salmon. No pigs in blankets. (sausages to go with the sausage meatloaf????)

A hot, fresh from the oven turkey (or chicken or other bird) has to be stuffed with bread and onion stuffing. Not a sausage meatloaf that is referred to as stuffing for some ridiculous reason. Stuffing has to go into something.

Good white wine will be served with dinner. No one will have had anything much to drink before that. Though it's possible that a baileys might be available with the breakfast coffee or a bit of fizz in the orange juice.

With dinner there has to be both mashed potatoes and mashed turnip. (I will allow this to be swede as that's available whereas what I call turnip isn't). I might make a salad or I might have peas.

There will be gravy made from the pan drippings, thickened with flour (wheat, not cornflour) and made rich and creamy with the ingredients my mom used to use.

There will be no trifle or pudding or mince tarts. Instead very tiddly homemade shortbread and iced grape nut squares and if I decide to go all out on a wing - Nanaimo bars. Ice wine might be available to finish the meal.

It will be served earlyish - so about 5 pm. Which means by 9 pm there's a bit of room to snack on some of the left over meatballs and then have some more shortbread and squares.