Motherinlaw ruined xmas

[Sadie113]

I dont knowif im being unreasonable but few weeks ago i was called an liar about being abused in a relationship should i call it grabbing my collar and being in my face dont know if that is abuseive or not but that persons sister said i was a lier and making up lies so i cut of all contact and being abused as a child sexually and having to fight with my own demons i didnt expect to get called a liar about something that recently happened to me as an adult in a commited relationship with someonei have 2 kids with
I had told him as i was made out yo be a liar i want nothing to do with his sister or my kids will take nothing to do with it as tomorrow she could turn aroumd and say my kids are tellimg lies god forbid anything like that happens to them. My mother in law then came up 2 days before christmas and decided to allow my kids to have a conversation with the sister who accused me of being a lier and he did nothing aboit it and broke my trust and went far beyond my boundaries i feel like our christmas got ruined and i still ended up trying to makw it upto my partner by cuddling him while he had no care in tje world that if thatwas the other way about how hw would feel today were on breakimg up point and i really dont know if this is all my fault

Thank you for that MyMIL. I can read it now

It wasn't yourMIL or SIL who ruined Christmas

If he hurt you emotionally or physically ( or both) then he is not a good partner.
Do you want to live with someone who treats you like this?
Do you want your children to children to live with a person who behaves this way?
Violence often escalates and the fact he doesn’t see grabbing your collar and acting aggressively as violent behaviour is worrying.
I’d suggest you contact Women’s Aid and talk over your situation and your options.
For now ignore MIL and SIL, and get your own situation and options straight in your head.
no one should live with violence.

its not your MIL you need to be annoyed with here… as for trying to make it up to him? Would you catch yourself on and out your kids first and leave someone who is abusive towards you

Put your kids first*

grabbing my collar and being in my face dont know if that is abuseive or not

Sounds abusive to me. It’s threatening and intimidating.

It seems like he is the golden boy to your MIL and his sister. That he can do no wrong by them.

You have past trauma, which I am so sorry to read💐. Which makes you more vulnerable and at risk of further abuse.

You are not a liar. You know you’re not. Please don’t let these women try and break you down to protect their abusive son/brother.

Leave the relationship, as soon and as safely as you can.

Op, it’s very difficult to understand a lot of what you are writing. Please use some punctuation, in your posts, as that can completely change the meaning of what you are trying to say.

I am so sorry you are in this position.

It is definitely abuse, including him blaming you and making you feel confused.

Please reach out for help to end this abusive relationship.

Women's Aid
www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/

National Domestic Abuse Helpline – 0808 2000 247 – www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/

If you feel threatened by him do not hesitate to call the police.

I understood your post love.
What he’s doing is gaslighting you…I mean he’s turning it round to look as. as if it’s your fault for him abusing you. It isn’t your fault at all.
He has no right to grab you by the collar or to get into your face.
His sister and his mother have shown you where their loyalties lie so watch your back where these two are concerned.