My entire family is pissing me off

[Annon1234]

We’ve had a lovely morning unwrapping presents playing with toys etc But now I’m getting ready im just getting irritated. I’ve picked up wrapping paper 20+ times today while my husband has sat and watched. He’s been playing with the child but that’s it,Asked him to hoover round while I get ready, I can here him and he’s still sat on the sofa, oh and teaching our child how to ride a bike inside. Mum called and wants extra chairs bringing, last minute he’s moaning about going int the garage for them. Off to parents for lunch which is the same Specticle every year, I help with dinner when I’d much rather be spending time with my child, if it was upto me we’d go out for food, dads getting drunk, there’s always maddens at the table because he’s drunk, he goes into the living room falls asleep and that’s the end of it. I just feel generally harassed by the day as I’m making sure next year all be different

Feel for you

Maybe you could forget the hoovering for one day?

I feel your pain. This is the first Christmas we are going to a restaurant rather than me cooking and daughter has thrown a strop and says she's not coming. Apparently we didn't thank her enough for the gifts she made us. She's 22 ffs. We have tried to talk her round but will have to go without her

There’s bits of wrapping paper all over the floor and tags, it’s just literally to get the bits up

That seems such a shame that she’s willing to miss out on the day

@Buzzer3555 @Annon1234

lots of sympathy - you both sound like you are having a really stressful day

I think the hoovering and picking up wrapping paper is unnecessary if it isn’t a room you’ll be spending time in today - but if your husband is a lazy slob all the time then I’d be addressing that.

We will when we get home, and I really don’t fancy tackling after a big dinner

You do not need to go over on Christmas day. Just chill out and enjoy.

Hoover not go over.

So make it the Christmas you want. only you can do that.

you don’t want to hoover? Don’t hoover. Just put the wrapping paper into recycling/rubbish as you go along, also slows down the present opening which is usually a good thing. You want to spend time playing with your child? Do so - Christmas was made for bike riding indoors!

I spent last Christmas Eve just getting discharged from chemotherapy in time to make it home, (I was bloody determined to make it out in time). I’m spending this one having last attempt treatment at a regional cancer centre - I won’t see my children for over a month.
Christmas is in your control - make it what you want. But if you choose to be passive for an easier life that’s your choice.

There’s little spikey tags every where and thought hoovering would a 30 second job rather than picking the out of our feet every 2 mins haha

Surely you could leave the wrapping for one day and play with your kids too? Almost all my memories of my mum are her cleaning and scolding and keeping everything scrupulously clean all the time, and my dad being the one we could relax with and talk to. Don't do that to yourself too.

That sounds really awkward🙈
sounds like she's got up on her high horse and can't get down again👀
hopefully someone can find her a ladder 📶🙏

im really sorry to here that, that must be really tough. And hearing Petty people like me moaning about bloody wrapping paper!
sending lots of love!

My cooker has a gas leak I can't use it...so I've been hurtling down the road a dozen times using my DIL's cooker..it's amazing but very different from my old range. DH is sat on his arse watching TV and just said he hoped I wasn't working too hard.

Our living room is so small, we’d be tripping over ourself so getting rid of rubbish is a must! As much as I’d like to just forget about it

How annoying! So helpful aren’t they. I always get told ‘it’s my Christmas too’ and it’s mine!

Sounds like a perfectly normal Xmas. Sounds like your DC is having an amazing time. Hope you can enjoy your day and not get too wound up. Xx

Honestly, OP - just don't get worked up by it all. Forget the hoovering. Sit on the sofa with a large glass of wine and chill. No such thing as a perfect Christmas. I think your DH has got the idea.
If things really need doing, they'll be done.

I'm with your husband. Sit down, lighten up, play with your kids.

i think that’s come out harsher than I meant it to - I do not mean it to be a race to the bottom (I just am missing my DC today a lot but that’s not your fault! only I can change my mindset today). But there are parts of that you can change - your dad sounds a nightmare and it’s too late to be around him this year - but you can change things for next year, or speak up this year.
And wrapping paper doesn’t matter but up and down the country Id bet there are millions of similar domestic niggles, if even 10% resulted in something changing then the world would be a happier place!

First World problems.

Re going out for dinner it's very expensive whose going to pay for that?

Presumably the lady who wrote that post is paying for it herself? If she can afford it, why not?

I went out for Xmas dinner last year and 2 years before that. It was great both times and well worth.

Don't Hoover on Christmas day and stay at home in future it's the only solution