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Is anyone else a Christmas zone?

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Elisi · 20/12/2022 22:20

I am not a fan of Christmas, I have low spectrum autism so I find it incredibly stressful. I chose to have children, however, and there was no way that I was going to do anything but make it live up to their expectations (atmosphere-wise, I'm not the Bank of England!). Sat down with my children 5 years ago when my youngest turned 21 and said 'Babies, the Christmas memories I have with you are some of the best of my life, look at you 3 growing up year by year😍But do you mind if I squirrel those times away in my happy place and never do a festive period again?' I can't cope with it. I don't understand why people dread this time of year so much yet still insist that it's the best time ever, when if they're honest with themselves they're actually stressed to fuck, can't afford it, under pressure to make it twinkly and perfect, and breathe the BIGGEST sigh of relief when it's all over. It took a year or 2 to not automatically start getting stressed at the start of the Christmas period (October, alongside the Hallowe'en decorations), but now that I'm used to it, it's blissful, and it's having a knockdown effect on my children too. They DO put up a tree in their homes, but they aren't running around around like blue-arsed flies trying to fit a commercially projected ideal, they are chilled about it, and it works. Anyone else out there who has decided that Christmas is for other people and is happy and comfortable with it?

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Elisi · 20/12/2022 22:22

I meant Christmas free zone!!!!

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FourChimneys · 20/12/2022 22:29

Totally with you. We did it when the DC were young but they are not interested now either, especially DS who would rather be off travelling.

I do the bare minimum I can get away with socially, not bothered if other people do it. I don't do Diwali or Chanukah either, I'm just aware that other people will be celebrating and respect that.

I'm looking forward to the Solstice tomorrow though which will be celebrated quietly.

hiredandsqueak · 20/12/2022 22:31

I would love a Christmas free zone and that's what I imagined would happen once the dc grew up. I've never liked Christmas not even as a child but I also had the misfortune of having a Christmas Day birthday. The dc know I hate Christmas but all insist on celebrating my birthday here with me on the day so there is no discernible difference to any other Christmas if I'm honest and now I have a grandson and so Christmas is gradually getting big again. I hope that one day, one year I get my wish to ignore it all but won't hold my breath waiting.

Notonyournellykelly · 20/12/2022 22:41

I've never found Christmas particularly stressful! But ours is very low key. Maximum of three adults and two kids for dinner. I would hate a big Christmas with 20+ guests. That would stress me out a lot.

Luredbyapomegranate · 20/12/2022 22:47

I love Christmas, but I don’t find it very stressful. It’s very chilled round ours, although we do do all the trimmings, albeit not in an especially fancy way.

TangledWebofMincemeatDeception · 20/12/2022 22:52

I don't understand why people dread this time of year so much yet still insist that it's the best time ever, when if they're honest with themselves they're actually stressed to fuck, can't afford it, under pressure to make it twinkly and perfect, and breathe the BIGGEST sigh of relief when it's all over.

That’s not how everyone feels about it though...some do. But many don’t. We’ve always kept our Christmases low-key and it isn’t stressful at all. Even when I was a single mother with young children. working and studying, I didn’t find Christmas stressful. I also don’t do martyrdom, so I don’t do anything unless I actually want to do it.

I’m glad you gave it up since it wasn’t right for you!

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 20/12/2022 22:55

we are a Christmas free zone. Decades of having to do it for family/friends/clients totally wrecks any notion of fun festivities. Plus it’s way too commercialised for us and no longer about looking after one another. Stopped doing it gradually (and now do nothing at all towards it) and it’s bliss and just a bonus extra day off now. It’s our one day to not have to do anything, see it speak to anyone and just relax in comfy clothes and eat whatever we fancy - usually baked potatoes and beans or a pizza.

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