Christmas card to send to bereaved friend

[ImJustMadAboutSaffron]

My friend's dad died about 10 days ago. He had been ill although it wasn't expected yet. The funeral is on 29 December. I have got my friend a voucher for a pamper session near home to use after Christmas, but I don't really know what sort of card to send her. I can't send the usual Merry Christmas, have a cool yule, that sort of thing.

Does anyone have any thoughts please? Thanks.

My dad died a month ago and his funeral is this week. Very similar situation to your friend.

Your gift idea is very kind. I would send a card that is blank inside that you can write your own message in. It doesn't need to be long, just 'thinking of you and your family at this difficult time' is fine.
If you knew her dad then a few words on how lovely he was would also go down well.

Don't overthink it, just showing that you care (which you clearly do) will be more than enough.

there are some lovely blank snowy scenes type thing that you can just write in 'thinking if you at this time type thing with no reference to Jerry it happy.

just knowing that friends are thinking of you and acknowledging your grief is lovely.

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This one? tootsdesign.co.uk/products/if-christmas-is-hard-card

My friends dad died in Sept. I got her a great friend one with no message & then wrote my own in it. Had to think of her partner and kids who are far less affected by it!!

That is perfect. I just don't think it would arrive in time as I'd have to post it. I have contacted the artist and asked if she would send it out to my friend direct, with a message from me and I would pay her for the postage. What a lovely idea.

I have had to look for Christmas cards for a couple of bereaved friends who lost loved ones earlier in the year, and found that any decent card shop will sell a few ‘thinking of you at Christmas time’ cards (eg Hallmark) which might suit this situation. I saw one that had something to do with sympathy at Christmas. I see you might have a solution already but just in case.

My mum died in December a few years ago and we had a few lovely cards saying "Wishing you a peaceful Christmas" which felt like the right sentiment for us at the time.

They had a lovely "Thinking of you at Christmas" one in Tesco the other day, may be worth looking in your local.

The year my dad died I had a lot of cards with 'special thoughts this Christmas'. He'd died earlier in the year though. I thought it was a kind way of acknowledging it was my first Christmas without him.

When my friends daughter died very suddenly I sent a card with a simple snowy scene, with a couple sitting on a bench, looking up at a star, it was blank inside and I wrote my own message to her and her husband. She rang me later in the year and told me she really appreciated the card, and the thought that went into finding it. She kept the card.

Sorry to hear this. I would buy a nice picture card, perhaps with flowers or a nature scene, blank inside, not specifically Christmassy or festive-looking; and write in it something like 'Thinking of you; Love, Saffron'.