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Does anyone else find Christmas a bit overwhelming?

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Glitterpens · 19/12/2022 09:02

I do absolutely love Christmas so it's not a case of not liking it enjoying it. I really do love everything about it from the songs to the films, the excitement of the build up. I even love the quiet period afterwards.

Anyway, I'm feeling a bit anxious and overwhelmed too. I think that the reason for this is some of the behaviour from extended family members. I won't go into detail as I'm sure that some are on here, but let's just say Christmas seems to being out the worst in some people. Throughout the year I feel that I put up with a lot of shit off certain people. I would like the lead up to Christmas to be a relaxed, happy time for meeting up exchanging presents not watching adults behave like spiteful toddlers.

I think the other reason is that Christmas stirs up a lot of old feelings of childhood Christmases. Growing up we didn't have much money and my parents were very bad at budgeting and prioritising. Although we did end up having a Christmas Day it was always last minute and being a child I was very aware of this, presents were always ill thought out for example buying a little girl who wants a doll a toy car instead. Not having a nice outfit for a school Christmas party and my parents asking around for hand me downs or buying an outfit to wear and taking it back to the shop afterwards because they couldn't afford it.

Does anyone else have similar feelings?

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BCBird · 19/12/2022 09:10

I never really liked Christmas when I was a kid- too much tension. In fact never really liked weekends for this reason. Please prioritise you. Three years ago I did Christmas dinner for my brother,nephew and stepdad. I spent a fortune, ages cookin etc and they buggered off soon after eaten. Left me to clean up. I am alone this year and that is preferable to the piss take I mentioned. Grieving my partner's suicide too. Shit show but would prefer to be alone than accept invitations and feel like i got to put public face on. For me Christmas has always bern underwhelming. Holiday away after Christmas with mate. Take care

GoodnightJude1 · 19/12/2022 09:17

I’ve always found Christmas difficult. Mainly due to divorced parents and then my own relationship break down and now being a ‘blended’ family. It’s the logistics of it all that stresses me out…. Who was with who last year, who’s picking the kids up, who’s dropping them off, whose parents are we going to see in the morning etc etc.
I think lots of people have high expectations of what they want Christmas to be like and if the smallest thing disrupts that then all hell breaks loose.
I always hated being pulled in different directions at Christmas when I was little. I felt guilty when I went to my dads because mum didn’t have me there…then If I was with mum I’d get drunk calls from my dad crying that he missed me and it wasn’t a ‘proper Christmas’ anymore. I promised myself when I separated from DC dad that I would never put them in that position.

SendMyMILIntoSpaceOneWayTicket · 19/12/2022 10:18

Yes. I have come to dread Christmas because of extended family. I used to love it, but we have put up with so much shit from extended family, especially (always) this time of year, that now I almost feel it’s come to be expected that someone will cause a massive load of stress at Christmas or kick-off.

LovelyRachel · 21/12/2022 10:27

Yes! Christmas logistics has me in absolute pieces this year (I started my own thread on how to cope!)

The guilt tripping when I've "just said no!" to their demands is ridiculous.

In my case all the offenders are in their 70s! Younger family members are much kinder and flexible with meet ups.

NCTDN · 21/12/2022 11:08

@BCBird I hope you're ok - sounds tough.
Christmas I find is more underwhelming these days. I loved it when my children were little, but things now feel like such an anti climax.

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