What should come from Father Christmas?

[Ponderingwindow]

dd is a teen and not a believer, but we assured her that she would always get a gift from fc as long as she was a kid. It’s just a fun thing we do for Christmas. Normally, there are a couple of nicer gifts that we are giving and I have fc give whichever one is largest physically because it doesn’t fit well under the tree ahead of time.

this year she is getting one ridiculously expensive gift and then a few little things that are either glorified stocking stuffers or that I would have just bought her as day to day items but I saved them so she would have things to unwrap.

So my dilemma is should the much desired expensive present be from fc and thus the first thing she opens after we do stockings, or should I have fc bring her something really quite lame so that I can tuck the amazing present at the back of the pile for the very last gift?

Father Christmas is just the delivery man. My DC have always known we pay for everything. Just as I knew when I was small. Never spoilt the "magic"

Stocking from father christmas and 1 gift from him. Dc would write a list to him and post it, the list isn't more than 5 items and he brings one of them. This isn't wrapped, usually has a red bow on and is placed under the tree. The gift he brings usually wasn't the show stopper gift like a new bike etc, dc used to put crazy things on her list like a dog teddy bear or shiny red shoes so that's what he'd get her. All the other gifts were from us or relatives and all wrapped up

Just to be clear, we won’t be changing our routine. I know some people only have FC bring stockings . He brings a gift to our house. That is our tradition.

So why ask?

I don’t want to say. Given the cost of living crisis I hesitated to even make this post.

the truth is that it doesn’t really matter what the item happens to be. It was well outside our normal spending but we managed to make it work. A big stretch gift might differ from family to family, but I think the concept is universal.

Because I didn’t ask if he should bring a present. I asked if
a) he should bring something boring so we can save the best gift for last
or
b) he should bring the special gift which will then be opened first since we open fc gifts first and then all the subsequent gifts can be boring.

Has always been everything from FC here and will be until they stop believing.

DS is 17 but has SLD so is cognitively much younger.

All presents from DH and I come from Father Christmas.

Other family members come from them directly.

If she doesn't believe any more anyway just make it that the less exciting gifts are from FC.

I would give her the main gift from Santa it doesn’t matter she knows it from you anyway

Here it would be from Father Christmas, I think that is the most magical even if she is older.

I would save it for opening last and would still wrap it from Santa I think (gold or silver paper here). As your tradition is to open the gift left by Santa first I’d wrap an additional less exciting Santa gift this year to open first.

This makes perfect sense!.

I can do a boring gift so we keep the routine and then have an extra gift at the end! We use red and white paper for FC.

I feel like a terrible parent reading this. Our DC never had anything from FC, I thought he just delivered the gifts.

Same here.
I think they saw through the ‘stocking from Santa’ when he had to start leaving them in my room, as they weren’t getting back from the pub till after my bedtime. 😁

Absolutely every family does Santa different. You are not a terrible parent. I remember my sister in law going crazy that we done Santa different to her . She was worried it would ruin the magic for her kids. I think she forgot Santa isn’t real there is no right or wrong way to do it .

Yup this is what we do 😊 he's not that much different from the Hermes/Evri delivery people 🤣 except Santa brings it nicely inside on Christmas Eve night instead of just lobbing it over the side gate or putting it 'safely' in the wheelie bin 🙄🤣

I would leave the big present till you do the main presents all together. So plan your plan "a"

I think that you are maybe overthinking this? I don't think it'll matter massively on the day. When I was a kid all presents were from santa, none from parents and I kept that going for mine. But as I see, everyone seems to do it all differently so go with your gut.