Present for a parent carer?

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My daughter is a parent carer to her son

What present could I get her? She's 25. Takes care of her appearance but doesn't like tat and keeps things understated and minimal

She deserves something really nice. Budget of £50

She keeps trying to change the subject so I forget to buy her anything! So need suggestions

Thank you

A voucher for a massage and a promise to babysit?

Perfume, warm dressing gown if she’s up with him in the night, decent slippers. Voucher for a haircut.

There’s more to her than just being a carer surely? I’m in the same boat with my son but I’d hate to be reduced to that. I don’t mean to sound snippy btw. But surely she has an identity other than ‘carer’

Sadly not

She always says she just feels like a carer with no identify anymore, not even the usual 'mum' identity

Yes great ideas

A nice piece of jewellery, maybe a necklace. I really treasure a couple of bits my DM got me around that age, which was 20 years ago.

Pay for her or her and someone to go somewhere and do the caring while she goes. Have it all planned and tell her the details so she knows everything will be taken care of (caring wise). Give her a complete break or as much as she can. I'm guessing when she has gone out she worries about her son, so show her as much as you can that she doesn't have that worry so she can may be relax snd enjoy herself a little and possibly be herself too and not x's mum for a few hours.

I'm a parent carer to my child 🙂

I also like understated things and no tat.

Voucher for massage and babysitting would not be my sort of thing as I wouldn't be able to relax.

I'd love houseplants, lovely chunky socks, essential oils, candles, posh bath stuff as that's my treat. Or to be honest cold hard cash would be very useful! Or a voucher for a supermarket,.not very exciting but DLA doesn't go very far!

I’m a parent carer too and i like better versions of things I currently use. Like I don’t have time for a bath but I can shower so often ask for Aesop shower gel. It’s so nice but so expensive but smells amazing and makes that 3 minute shower nicer. Or some really nice body moisturiser. Im
a lot older than your daughter though!

If finances are tight I'd go with a lovely version of something practical. You don't want to get something like a super pricey scented candle if she's struggling to buy herself clothes for example unless you know that's what she wants.

I also wouldn't assume she would enjoy a voucher that means having to have time away from her child.

I would go for something like lovely slippers (sheepskin if budget allows) or an Oodie or fake version if having the heating on too much is an issue. Are there any luxury toiletries you know she loves but can't justify buying herself? Or what about a voucher for her favourite clothes shop?

You could combine with a few homemade vouchers for your help she can cash in as needed such as "batch cook for your freezer", "look after child whilst she goes out with friends" or "clear the laundry pile"

Also you are a lovely mum to think to ask
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Batch cook for freezer would be a fantastic gift. I'd love that. I look after a disabled child and with so many appointments time is always in short supy.

I’m a parent carer. I hate all sorts of pampering stuff because it just reminds me that I don’t have time for this, I have no time to care for pets or houseplants. My sibling gave me a nice gold chain a few years ago for my birthday. I said thank you, put it in a box and it stays there since. I don’t wear jewellery, my style is very simple: jeans and t-shirt or sweater. Everything should be machine washable.
I hate presents when you need to do something e.g to assemble or to read instructions as time is the most precious resource for me. And I don’t have much space - space is priortized for DD’s things.
I do love reading light stuff on DD’s kindle (after she’s in bed) so voucher for Amazon would do nicely , I love chocolate, wine and cheese. I do wear perfume and makeup but not much and they are specific things.
There are things I want and can’t justify buying e.g I’d love cashmere fingerless gloves. I don’t need them

though.
My mum gave up on me and only give me money now because I do like practical gifts which make my life easier, she struggled to get it for a while and wanted to get me fancy stuff.

Voucher for haircut (and offer to mind your grandchild).
Perfume.
Good slippers.
Trainers.

Salon vouchers sound divisive but I’m in this boat and my mum got me one last year. It was a spa day and the best day ever!
Woukd she like a really nice bottle of gin? Not sure if her circumstances mean it would be perfect or useless.
I’m really covering a gorgeous teapot and some nice biscuits. I love the idea of doing myself a tray of tea after the kids are in bed.
How about a newspaper subscription for a Sunday paper? Reading actual newspapers feels like a luxury to me, although I only ever do it on holiday.Luxury shampoos are always a treat.
Nice pyjamas or a new jumper.

Two thoughts on that, either she genuinely wants nothing like me or she's too exhausted/burnt out to even think about it. I genuinely prefer not to get gifts. Whether it's an experience/massage/facial/spa/movies, I don't want a voucher I have to find energy and time to use, because I don't have any to spare. Those sort of presents make me feel pressured and guilty.

I don't want flowers, they die and make my eyes itch, ditto moisturizer or perfume or scented anything can't have in the house due to allergies. Same for Jewellery and batch cooking. Also need to take into account if DC has any allergies, but this is very individual.

Amazon or play store voucher would be useful as I read a bit when I'm up during the night. I like to shop on Amazon because I don't have the struggle of taking DC to the shop and I can squeeze it in when I've got a moment. I love my oddie and my comfy dressing gowns.